A New Earth Is Rising

A New Earth Is Rising...

We Stand at the Edge of a New Beginning.

A New Earth reality is being borne – a reality not so much utopian, but one where Essence and Spirit preside (rather than form and ego) and we are fully empowered to manifest the things in life that make our heart's sing!

To fully participate, we must learn to let go of the energies of the past, as we connect and blend with our Spiritual Core and co-create dynamic lives rich with joy, fulfillment, beauty and laughter.

If we only knew how to get from HERE to THERE!

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Too Old???

Opportunity Knocks

Who Says You Can't Live Your Dreams?
By Valerie Young

Dreamers beware: for every dream there are 10 naysayers just
waiting to dash it. It almost happened to Beverly Goodman Park.
Park was close to 60 when her marriage ended. At an age when
most people are contemplating retirement, Park decided to pursue
a long-held dream of becoming an attorney. A lot of people told
her she was too old. Undaunted, Park went to law school while
working full-time, passed the bar exam, and at 61, landed a job
at a law firm. Of her critics she says, "I thought this age
stuff was baloney."

Walter Anderson, author of The Greatest Risk of All, says by the
time we are in our 20s, we will have heard 25,000 "can'ts."
Don't expect a lot of support for your "foolish dreams."
Instead, be prepared to reach deep within to turn "can't" into
"can." Here are two motivation-boosting tips to get you started:

Become the Future You

Dreams, by their very nature, are about the future. With so many
present-day demands your dream can start to feel distant. The
more far-off the goal, the less likely it is you will act on it.

How can you make sure your dream doesn't fall prey to the
out-of-sight, out-of-mind syndrome? By bringing it into the
present. To do this you must become the future "you." Here's
how: The next time someone asks what you do for a living, try
answering, not in terms of the present, but as if you were
actively engaged in pursing your dream right this minute. In
other words, squelch your pat "I'm an accountant/in sales/a
social worker/a homemaker" response and instead try saying
something like: "I'm an aspiring mystery writer," or "I'm
looking into returning to school to become an oceanographer," or
"I'm in the process of changing careers to pursue my love of
gourmet cooking."

It doesn't matter if you haven't written a single page of your
future bestseller, sent away for one college catalog, or lifted
a finger to pursue your passion for cooking. What does matter is
that the dream that once felt elusive will suddenly begin to
feel real. And when that happens, you will be amazed at how much
sooner you'll get the change ball rolling. Before you know it,
you will actually BE the future you!

Get Inspired

Someone who knows a lot about the power of "acting as if" is
Steven Spielberg. Hoping to fulfill his filmmaking dreams,
Spielberg explains that he snuck onto the lot of Universal
Studios and became a "squatter" in an empty office. He even
bought plastic letters to mount his name in the building
directory. Security guards and exec's alike thought the guy
belonged there. His high jinks paid off. Spielberg's first
directorial break came when the studio bigwigs finally saw his
first film and liked what they saw.

This and other success stories can be found in Mischief
Marketing: How the Rich, Famous, & Successful Really Got Their
Careers and Businesses Going. Author Ray Simon reveals how
famous people as diverse as Mother Teresa, Duke Ellington, Andy
Kaufman, rap artist Big Pun, and Benjamin Franklin really got
started in life and how you can use their mischievous techniques
to do the same.

As encouraging as success stories can be, learning about
another's failure can be just as inspiring. Did you know that
Bob Dylan was booed off the stage at his high school talent
show? Or that Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper job for
"lacking ideas?" Or that Thomas Edison failed to perfect the
light bulb until his ten-thousandth try? How many "can'ts" do
you think these dreamers had to endure?

And when faced with a dream-buster, these "failure stories" can
make great comebacks, too. Would Parks' critics have been so
quick to discourage had she pointed out that Grandma Moses
didn't start painting until she was 80 years-old and that, of
her over 1,500 paintings, 25 percent were produced when she was
past 100?

"Persistence," said Robert Half, "is what makes the impossible
possible, the possible likely, and the likely definite." As
anyone who has ever chased a dream will tell you,
disappointment, self-doubt, and failure go with the territory.
The trick is to recognize these setbacks for what they really
are - bumps in the road, not the end of the road.

Publisher Katherine Graham said it well: "To love what you do
and feel that it matters - how could anything be more fun?" This
is your life we're talking about here. So what are you waiting
for? Catch a dream, have some fun and start turning can't into
can!


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About the Author
"Turning Interests Into Income" expert, Valerie Young,
Abandoned her corporate cubicle to become the
Dreamer in Residence at http://ChangingCourse.com
offering resources to help you discover your life mission
and live it. Her career change tips have been cited in
Kiplinger's, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today Weekend,
Woman's Day, and elsewhere and on-line at MSN,
CareerBuilder, and iVillage.com. An expert on the Impostor
Syndrome, Valerie has spoken on the topic of How to Feel as
Bright and Capable as Everyone Seems to Think You Are
(http://ImpostorSyndrome.com) to such diverse organizations as
Daimler Chrysler, Bristol-Meyers Squibb, Harvard, and American
Women in Radio and Television.

To read more articles about how to work at what you love without
a job go to http://ChangingCourse.com/articles

Vision and Value

"The vision and values we choose to fix in our minds today determines tomorrow's character and culture. We start to change who we're becoming and where we're headed when we change what we value and picture in our future."


- from Jim Clemmer's article, "Our Values Shape Our Character and Culture"

What Are Your Priorities?

"Our values hierarchy sets our priorities. It determines where we spend our time. For example, do we choose to watch TV or invest that time in personal improvement? Do we sleep longer or go jogging? Do we spend time with our family or take on that extra project with heavy out of town travel? Who gets invited to important meetings? These are important questions because we invest our time in those areas we value most."


- from Jim Clemmer's article, "Our Values Set Our Priorities"

How Do You See The World?

"There is no objective reality. We don't see the world as it is, we see the world as we are."

Sean was filling out a university questionnaire to help determine roommate compatibility. Beside the questions, "Do you make your bed every day?" and "Do you consider yourself a neat person?" he checked "Yes." Later his mother reviewed the questionnaire. Knowing those answers were far from the truth, she asked Sean why he'd lied. "What do you expect me to do," he retorted. "I don't want to get stuck living with some slob!"

The gap between what we say we value and how we live can get pretty big. This hypocrisy could be because I am trying to fool others. Some people don't try to do what's right, they try to guess what other people think is right. For example, when someone says it's not about the money, but the principle of the thing, it's usually about the money. The manager of a large bookstore once told me that the book they have stolen the most is the Bible. Hypocrites climb the social, organizational, or career ladder 'wrong' by 'wrong' while trying to justify, excuse, or disguise their behavior. Like Mae West in Klondike Annie, when choosing between two evils, they pick the one they haven't tried before.

More often hypocrisy is because I am fooling myself. I am not being true to me. I am not authentic. Lack of authenticity often stems from lack of awareness of the values or beliefs that are really at the core of who I am. When we're not centered with a solid core, change is often a threat. It's also harder to accumulate the positive choices that vaccinate us against the Victimitis Virus and keep us from living in Pity City. Lacking a firm focal point, passion is weak and commitment is soft. Without a strong set of core values we're more likely to lead our lives from the outside in rather than the inside out. A centered leader grows his or her inner space and provides spirit and meaning to others. When our values aren't in focus our energy is easily scattered. That makes it tougher to mobilize ourselves never mind anyone else. Core values provide a context for continuous growth and development that takes us toward our dreams. Our core values project forward to become our vision. How we see the world is what we project from ourselves.

In Going Deep, Ian Percy writes, "Most business people I know are much more concerned with the quality of their customer service than they are with the quality of their parenting and spousing." In one highly successful company we consulted with executives proudly declared they had the highest divorce rate of any major corporation in the country. Many wore their divorces as a badge of honor to show their commitment to the company. When the company suddenly tosses them aside or they reach retirement, is a broken family the price that most of these executives will feel glad they paid for their career success? No one can judge someone else's values, but is that really what they value? Is career success at all costs their core essence?

Our core values show themselves in many ways. One is at points of crisis, disaster, or adversity. That's often when our actions move us unconsciously from the depth of our heart. Any masks we may be wearing are torn off to reveal our true face. Money is often another powerful way a person's core essence is revealed to him or herself and/or others. It's amazing to hear some people proclaim family values and then trash their "loved ones" over an inheritance. Greed is responsible for some mighty creative rationalizations. It's great to have money and the good life that money can buy. But we need to ensure that we haven't lost the invaluable things that money can't buy.




Excerpted from Jim's fourth international best-seller, Growing the Distance: Timeless Principles for Personal, Career, and Family Success. Jim Clemmer’s practical leadership books, keynote presentations, workshops, and team retreats have helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide improve personal, team, and organizational leadership. Visit his web site, www.clemmer.net, for a huge selection of free practical resources including nearly 300 articles, dozens of video clips, team assessments, leadership newsletter, Improvement Points service, and popular leadership blog.

Lifelong Learning

"Continuous learning, growing, and developing helps us find the path that is personal and unique to us. Ways of doing things depend upon tools and techniques.. There are no tools or techniques for ways of being. We all need to keep searching, growing, and developing those ways that are true to our inner selves and take us where we want to go."

- from Jim Clemmer's article, "Blazing Our Own Improvement Path"
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Change For The Better

"Change for the Better"
By Edel Jarboe

(Click here to read this article online:
http://www.selfhelpforher.com/newsletter154.htm)

The key to changing your life for the better lies in your
willingness to change. It lies in your willingness to let go of
past failures, mistakes, and fears and to embrace your future.
Letting go of self-limiting beliefs and behavior, however, is
difficult because we are often not even aware that we are the
ones holding ourselves back from our happiness. Instead, we
blame our circumstances and other people. But if you are
committed to making your life work you have to be honest with
yourself starting right now. You have to examine the reasons why
you seem to find yourself stuck in a life rut and you have to be
brave and take positive steps to change your life for the better.

== Change Your Habits, Change Your Life ==
The first step is to let go of old habits, beliefs, and routines
that keep you feeling trapped in your life. In other words, pack
up what isn't working for you anymore-emotionally, physically,
financially, etc-- and make room for new dreams and challenges.
Pack up your fears, failures, and disappointments as well because
these are what keep us feeling as if we have no control over our
happiness. And in order to free yourself to reach for your
dreams with confidence you have to break free of your fears and
self-imposed limitations.

In other words, you must challenge your inner obstacles by doing
what you fear. Stop being so hard on yourself and adopt the
attitude that you are in this for the long haul and learn to take
setbacks in stride. Instead of beating yourself up, give
yourself points for having the courage to try and for having the
courage to be true to yourself. Then get back up and try again.
Don't give up on yourself or your happiness just because you
didn't succeed on your first, second, or third try. Keep
believing in yourself and in your dreams and keep on until you
reach your goals.

== Change From Within ==
Too often we stubbornly cling to what isn't working in the hopes
that things will change on their own. But realistically the only
thing that you can change is you. You can change your
perspective on a situation by changing your beliefs and
attitudes. You can change how you choose to deal with the
situation. And, most importantly, you can change how you look at
yourself and your happiness. You can choose to believe that you
deserve to be happy and that you are capable of making your
happiness a reality.

On the other hand, clinging to rigid ideas of what life is
supposed to be like, to what is supposed to make you happy is how
you set yourself up for disappointment and end up in a life rut.
Be willing to let what is going to happen, happen. In order to
make a positive change in your life you have to change your
attitude. Happiness doesn't always come in the package we either
want or expect it to. Instead of wishing that things were
different, better, or easier practice acceptance and consciously
make the most of the tools and resources that are available to
you right now. Sometimes "you" have to make things work out the
way you want them to.

== Dig Out of A Mental Rut ==
Stop using past failures and disappointments as a predictor of
future success. This is a big happiness trap because we give up
before we have even begun to dream. Nurture a belief in yourself
and in your ability to create your own happiness. The way things
are is not the way things have to be.

Again, when we get rid of self-limiting beliefs and self
defeating behavior we make room for personal empowerment and
success. So don't be afraid to embrace new challenges and
opportunities in order to make your dreams a reality. You are
what you think and what you believe about yourself. It is
therefore up to you to take responsibility for your life in the
present moment and to stop making excuses for your unhappiness.
It is up to you to change your life for the better.

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QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF------------------------------------------------------------
1. What past failures or disappointments are you hiding behind?
What can you do to get out of this mental rut? What needs to
happen in order for you to learn and grow from this experience
instead of using it as an excuse?

2. How are you holding yourself back from your happiness? Which
habits and beliefs are keeping you stuck? Which habits and
beliefs do you need to replace them with?

3. Are you shying away from new opportunities and challenges?
What fear are you afraid to face and why? What would happen in
your life if you were to confront and conquer this fear? How
would your perception of yourself change? How would your life
change?

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