ABCs of MOTIVATION, THE HEART OF SELF IMPROVEMENT
A - Action. Take action to create the life you want. Avoid negative people, things and places. Achieve your dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
B - Believe in yourself, and in what you can do.
C – Consider every angle and aspect of a situation. Motivation comes from determination. Once you have conceived the solution, take action.
D – Determination. Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed over and over again before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb.
E – Enjoy life. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation is easier when you are happy.
F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them.
G – Give more than what is expected.
H – Hang on to your dreams. These little stars will be your driving force.
I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay away from toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success and only wants to talk about their failures..
J – Joy. Experience joy in some form everyday.
K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. Take one step at a time, putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time.
L – Learn to love yourself. Sometimes this may be difficult, but look at things you do well, ask people what they like about you and really listen to what they say.
M – Maintain your momentum. Make things happen. Motivation is putting your dreams into work clothes.
N – Never lie, cheat or steal. .
O – Optimism -look for the positive in every situation..
P – Positivism. Practice makes perfect. Prepare for your future.
Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. Get started now.
R – Regrets - get rid of them. Ready yourself to move forward.
S – Smile. It is amazing how much a smile can change your day and also other people's days. Share your smile with everyone you meet.
T – Thoughts. Take control of your thoughts and you take control of your life.
U – Understand others. Seek first to understand and then to be understood.
V – Visualize what you want for your life. Really visualize ALL of it - what you want, what you need.
W – Want it more than anything. If you want it enough, you will achieve it.
X – X-tra The "X Factor" is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to find time for “extras” in your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.
Y – YOU are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence.
Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!
To your personal success
Fran Watson
Showing posts with label achieving goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label achieving goals. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
Monday, January 11, 2016
Are You A Winner?
Today I am continuing on with my 3 wins per day as set up by Matthew Graves. He challenged a number of us to come up with 3 wins each night for the next day and to report back to the group on how we did on our wins.
Although many of the group are Internet Marketers, some are new and just getting started, while others have offline businesses as well. The wins are determined by the person, not the group, and can be as simple as getting to Church on Sunday, cleaning the kitchen, chopping wood for the fireplace and surfing Traffic Exchanges. Others may commit to contacting new signups or finding a new way to market their product. What you choose doesn't matter. What matters is that you complete your set tasks for the "Win".
We started just before New Years - December 30th - and each day Matthew posts a reminder so that all the posts can be made as comments and easily read by others.
Some of my wins have included writing a letter to my daughter who is overseas. I have committed to writing a letter on the first day of each month for this year. My wins have also included writing a blog post, preparing speeches for Toastmasters, calling a plumber about my frozen pipes, surfing traffic exchanges and sending out emails, updating my website, my boyfriend's website, our computer club website, etc.
Why not challenge yourself to 3 wins per day for the next month. Get a friend to join you so that you can encourage each other. You may be surprised how much you can accomplish if you try.
Here is the link to our Facebook page
As Matthew says: "If you want this week to be a "Turning Point" then it is completely up to you! You are the one who will either make this week AWESOME or "just another week in the rut"."
To your success
Fran Watson
P.S. Click here for more info
Although many of the group are Internet Marketers, some are new and just getting started, while others have offline businesses as well. The wins are determined by the person, not the group, and can be as simple as getting to Church on Sunday, cleaning the kitchen, chopping wood for the fireplace and surfing Traffic Exchanges. Others may commit to contacting new signups or finding a new way to market their product. What you choose doesn't matter. What matters is that you complete your set tasks for the "Win".
We started just before New Years - December 30th - and each day Matthew posts a reminder so that all the posts can be made as comments and easily read by others.
Some of my wins have included writing a letter to my daughter who is overseas. I have committed to writing a letter on the first day of each month for this year. My wins have also included writing a blog post, preparing speeches for Toastmasters, calling a plumber about my frozen pipes, surfing traffic exchanges and sending out emails, updating my website, my boyfriend's website, our computer club website, etc.
Why not challenge yourself to 3 wins per day for the next month. Get a friend to join you so that you can encourage each other. You may be surprised how much you can accomplish if you try.
Here is the link to our Facebook page
As Matthew says: "If you want this week to be a "Turning Point" then it is completely up to you! You are the one who will either make this week AWESOME or "just another week in the rut"."
To your success
Fran Watson
P.S. Click here for more info
Saturday, January 2, 2016
New Beginnings
Building A New And Better Universe - Building A New And Better YOU
That is our goal. Getting better each and every day. Releasing our bad habits and creating new habits that will help and not hinder us.
What goals have you set for 2016?
What habits are you going to build?
Who will hold you accountable?
How will you know if you succeed?
Why not state your goals in the comments section below. Share your goals and your determination to achieve them. I'll start.
1. To write a letter to my daughter who is far away on the 1st day of each month. (I started early, so I have completed 2 so far.)
2. To update my website. (It is a mess, I have neglected it for a while now.)
3. To write a blog post every week in 2016. (I have 4 blogs, and I hope to be able to write a post for each one each week, but will commit to writing at least one post per week.)
This is a start. I hope to add more as the year progresses. Now, how about you?
Fran
That is our goal. Getting better each and every day. Releasing our bad habits and creating new habits that will help and not hinder us.
What goals have you set for 2016?
What habits are you going to build?
Who will hold you accountable?
How will you know if you succeed?
Why not state your goals in the comments section below. Share your goals and your determination to achieve them. I'll start.
1. To write a letter to my daughter who is far away on the 1st day of each month. (I started early, so I have completed 2 so far.)
2. To update my website. (It is a mess, I have neglected it for a while now.)
3. To write a blog post every week in 2016. (I have 4 blogs, and I hope to be able to write a post for each one each week, but will commit to writing at least one post per week.)
This is a start. I hope to add more as the year progresses. Now, how about you?
Fran
Thursday, October 2, 2014
Burnout
A few weeks ago I found myself involved in a war of words with a colleague. I did not respond well and found myself shaking and in tears for much of a two week period. I wasn't sleeping well, I wasn't eating well, and I certainly was not happy. It was time to stop for a while and take stock of what was happening.
I have been reading Simple Abundance by Sarah Bean Breathnach for the past 9 months and today's reading hit me between the eyes.
She began with a quote by Edna St. Vincent Millay: My candle burns on both ends; It will not last the night. Exactly what I was feeling.
She went on to say that "burnout is a condition caused by unbalance: too much work or responsibility, too little time to do it, over too long a period." Yes, that too. Too many clubs, too much responsibility, feeling I had to carry everything on my shoulders, that if things failed, it would be my fault, and over too long a time period -- 12 years. Or wait, maybe it was even longer, maybe 28 years - since my husband left me with 4 kids to raise, and when I worked full time, raised the kids and took my university degree over 13 years.
Whatever it was, as Sarah said, "a smoldering flame can be just as deadly as a flash fire" and I think that things were smoldering below the surface for quite some time. Sarah called it when she said, "first degree burnout--the soul snuffer--comes from living unbalanced for years, when what was supposed to be a temporary situation becomes a lifestyle".
Her final paragraph told me what I have to do. "When you're suffering from burnout, you are the only person on earth who can help because you're the only one who can make the lifestyle changes that need to be made; to call a halt, to take a slower path, to make a detour." And so I have. I have cut back on meetings. I am letting others take control. I am backing away from too much responsibility. I am taking better care of me, going to bed earlier, eating better, stopping work earlier, taking time to get out in nature.
How about you? Are you beginning to feel the strain of burnout? Take the time now to make the necessary changes before you crash and burn.
See below for a short test you can take.
Fran
To a new and better you (BANABU)
SCORE YOURSELF: 4 Always 3 Frequently 2 Sometimes 1 Never
I have been reading Simple Abundance by Sarah Bean Breathnach for the past 9 months and today's reading hit me between the eyes.
She began with a quote by Edna St. Vincent Millay: My candle burns on both ends; It will not last the night. Exactly what I was feeling.
She went on to say that "burnout is a condition caused by unbalance: too much work or responsibility, too little time to do it, over too long a period." Yes, that too. Too many clubs, too much responsibility, feeling I had to carry everything on my shoulders, that if things failed, it would be my fault, and over too long a time period -- 12 years. Or wait, maybe it was even longer, maybe 28 years - since my husband left me with 4 kids to raise, and when I worked full time, raised the kids and took my university degree over 13 years.
Whatever it was, as Sarah said, "a smoldering flame can be just as deadly as a flash fire" and I think that things were smoldering below the surface for quite some time. Sarah called it when she said, "first degree burnout--the soul snuffer--comes from living unbalanced for years, when what was supposed to be a temporary situation becomes a lifestyle".
Her final paragraph told me what I have to do. "When you're suffering from burnout, you are the only person on earth who can help because you're the only one who can make the lifestyle changes that need to be made; to call a halt, to take a slower path, to make a detour." And so I have. I have cut back on meetings. I am letting others take control. I am backing away from too much responsibility. I am taking better care of me, going to bed earlier, eating better, stopping work earlier, taking time to get out in nature.
How about you? Are you beginning to feel the strain of burnout? Take the time now to make the necessary changes before you crash and burn.
See below for a short test you can take.
Fran
To a new and better you (BANABU)
ARE YOU A STRESS PRONE PERSONALITY?
SCORE YOURSELF: 4 Always 3 Frequently 2 Sometimes 1 Never
1.
Do you try to do as much as
possible in the least amount of time? _____
2.
Do you become impatient with
delays or interruptions? _____
3.
Do you always have to win games
to enjoy yourself? _____
4.
Do you speed up the car to beat
the red light? _____
5.
Are you unlikely to ask for
help with a problem? _____
6.
Do you constantly seek
admiration and respect from others? _____
7.
Are you overly critical of the
way others do their work? _____
8.
Do you have the habit of
looking at your watch or clock often? _____
9.
Do you constantly strive to
better your position and achievements? _____
10. Do you spread yourself too thin in terms of time? _____
11. Do you do more than one thing at a time? _____
12. Do you frequently get irritable or angry? _____
13. Do you have little time for hobbies or time by yourself? _____
14. Do you have a habit of talking quickly or hastening conversations? _____
15. Do you consider yourself hard-driving? _____
16. Do your friends or relatives consider you hard-driving? _____
17. Do you have a tendency to get involved in multiple projects? _____
18. Do you have a lot of deadlines in your work? _____
19. Do you feel vaguely guilty if you relax and do nothing during
leisure? _____
20. Do you take on too many responsibilities? _____
·
Between 20 – 30, your life
probably lacks stimulation
·
Between 31 – 50, you have a
good balance in your ability to handle stress
·
Between 51 – 60, you are
bordering on excessively tense
·
Over 60 – you may be a
candidate for heart disease
Monday, September 29, 2014
Develop Your Intuition
The Road to Intuition
Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this
huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise,
that "hunch" was eventually translated to reality?
When you feel strongly about something without a logical basis to
that thought, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions:
clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through
listening.
Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is
when you know what is happening somewhere else.
Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut
feeling." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling
and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."
On the other hand, feeling through listening is being able to
"listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a
certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's
twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.
It is claimed that only a number of people are gifted with intuition.
Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces
signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies
have been developing left and right that proclaim that anyone can
develop intuition.
Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your
emotional and psychological state remain as it is?
First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes
you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from
hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand
them. Intuition also makes you far more creative. Intuition means
releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly,
intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the
physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some
negative energy buried in it.
With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here
are some ways to unlock this gift:
1. Hypnosis
Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth.
You can perform self-hypnosis or you can obtain hypnotic programs
that can strengthen your intuition.
2. Meditation
Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart
are cluttered with too much baggage and hurt, you wouldn't be able to
quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition.
There are many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply
practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.
3. Think positive!
A worry-free, fear-free state can do much to improve your intuitive
ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be
able to recognize imminent feelings and events.
4. Just let go.
What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge
decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place
where you could find out where the letting go has brought you.
Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that
voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.
5. Never expect.
After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop
you from thinking and feeling clearly, don't expect an answer right
away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap
immediately. Give it a little time - then you just get surprised that
-- wham! -- now you have your answer.
6. Believe in your first impressions.
When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit
too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually
holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by
intuition.
7. Stay happy!
All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts
immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your
intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given
that premise, intuition will fall to you more easily.
Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something
that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by
intuition alone. Decisions are easier when armed with this gift.
BANABU
Fran Watson
Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.
Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this
huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise,
that "hunch" was eventually translated to reality?
When you feel strongly about something without a logical basis to
that thought, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions:
clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through
listening.
Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is
when you know what is happening somewhere else.
Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut
feeling." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling
and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."
On the other hand, feeling through listening is being able to
"listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a
certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's
twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.
It is claimed that only a number of people are gifted with intuition.
Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces
signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies
have been developing left and right that proclaim that anyone can
develop intuition.
Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your
emotional and psychological state remain as it is?
First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes
you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from
hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand
them. Intuition also makes you far more creative. Intuition means
releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly,
intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the
physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some
negative energy buried in it.
With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here
are some ways to unlock this gift:
1. Hypnosis
Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth.
You can perform self-hypnosis or you can obtain hypnotic programs
that can strengthen your intuition.
2. Meditation
Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart
are cluttered with too much baggage and hurt, you wouldn't be able to
quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition.
There are many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply
practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.
3. Think positive!
A worry-free, fear-free state can do much to improve your intuitive
ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be
able to recognize imminent feelings and events.
4. Just let go.
What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge
decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place
where you could find out where the letting go has brought you.
Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that
voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.
5. Never expect.
After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop
you from thinking and feeling clearly, don't expect an answer right
away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap
immediately. Give it a little time - then you just get surprised that
-- wham! -- now you have your answer.
6. Believe in your first impressions.
When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit
too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually
holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by
intuition.
7. Stay happy!
All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts
immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your
intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given
that premise, intuition will fall to you more easily.
Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something
that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by
intuition alone. Decisions are easier when armed with this gift.
BANABU
Fran Watson
Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
Impossible Dream?
"It is difficult to say what is impossible, for the dream of yesterday is the hope of today
and the reality of tomorrow."
and the reality of tomorrow."
.
~ Dr. Robert H. Goddard
Many of the things we take for granted today were once thought to be impossible.
Travel to the moon??? Impossible
Travel by air??? Impossible
Travel by horseless carriage??? Impossible
Speak to someone on the other side of the world??? Impossible
Connect with people using wireless technology??? Impossible
What do you want to see happen that people are telling you is "Impossible"? Don't listen! Anything is possible. Start asking yourself the right questions... "How can I?"
If people are shooting down your dream, stop telling them about it. Get rid of the negativity - it's your dream, not theirs. People want to keep the status quo, so they are worried when you try to change it.........change it anyway.
To achieving your impossible dream!!
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Building A New And Better (YO)U
"Who's the Boss?" 10 ways to start taking control (time management, goal setting, record tracking)
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many people with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder to manage those challenges and move forward.
Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows more time for making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide some practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.
2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.
3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.
5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.
6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!
7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!
8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.
10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating on the negatives in your life, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
BANABU - To Building A New And Better Universe - A New And Better (YO)U
Fran Watson
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many people with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder to manage those challenges and move forward.
Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows more time for making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide some practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.
2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.
3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.
5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.
6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!
7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!
8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.
10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating on the negatives in your life, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
BANABU - To Building A New And Better Universe - A New And Better (YO)U
Fran Watson
Saturday, August 3, 2013
Ten Commandments of Human Relations
1.
Speak to people.
There is nothing as nice as a cheerful word.
2.
Smile at people.
It takes 72 muscles to frown, only 14 to smile.
3.
Call people by name.
The sweetest music to anyone’s ears is the sound of his/her name.
4.
Be friendly and helpful. If you would have friends, be friendly.
5.
Be cordial.
Speak and act as if everything you do were a pleasure.
6.
Be genuinely interested in people. You can like every body if you try.
7.
Be generous with praise – cautious with criticism.
8.
Be considerate with the feelings of others – it s
appreciated.,
9.
Be thoughtful of the opinions of others – there are
three sides to a controversy – yours, the other person’s and the right one.
10. Be
alert to give service. What counts most
in life is what we do for others.
Be kind to one another
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
Weeds or Flowers?
This afternoon I had a chance to get back out into my garden for a few minutes. I was enjoying the beautiful flowers, but I noticed how quickly the weeds had grown up and how they were trying to take over the garden. As I pulled them out I thought about how much like life this is.
We "plant" beautiful deeds in our lives and we go along for a little while quite comfortably but then we notice that some "weeds" have sprung up. Perhaps someone said something and your feelings were hurt. Perhaps you said something to someone that you now regret. Perhaps you didn't get the job you wanted, the project you were hoping for, the raise you expected and the niggling doubts (weeds) started taking over.
It doesn't take long for the negativity to set in after that and unless you get rid of those weeds quickly they can take over and you begin to feel some signs of depression. You may wake up in the morning and not want to get out of bed. You may not want to get out and socialize with your friends. You may sit around your house moping.
It is important to deal with those "weeds" as soon as they start. It is much easier to pluck them when they are small rather than wait until they have grown and firmly implanted themselves in the garden.
Unfortunately for me today, it had been a long time since I was able to get in the garden due to weather and my schedule so many of those weeds were quite firmly implanted and it is going to take more than one session to get rid of them. It is the same with the "weeds" in our life.
It takes approximately 3 weeks to make or break a habit, so if the weeds are firmly implanted in your life, it will take more than a single effort to get rid of them. It will take conscious, repeated efforts to get rid of them and restore your life garden to a state of beauty.
BANABU
To having a beautiful Life Garden
Fran Watson
We "plant" beautiful deeds in our lives and we go along for a little while quite comfortably but then we notice that some "weeds" have sprung up. Perhaps someone said something and your feelings were hurt. Perhaps you said something to someone that you now regret. Perhaps you didn't get the job you wanted, the project you were hoping for, the raise you expected and the niggling doubts (weeds) started taking over.
It doesn't take long for the negativity to set in after that and unless you get rid of those weeds quickly they can take over and you begin to feel some signs of depression. You may wake up in the morning and not want to get out of bed. You may not want to get out and socialize with your friends. You may sit around your house moping.
It is important to deal with those "weeds" as soon as they start. It is much easier to pluck them when they are small rather than wait until they have grown and firmly implanted themselves in the garden.
Unfortunately for me today, it had been a long time since I was able to get in the garden due to weather and my schedule so many of those weeds were quite firmly implanted and it is going to take more than one session to get rid of them. It is the same with the "weeds" in our life.
It takes approximately 3 weeks to make or break a habit, so if the weeds are firmly implanted in your life, it will take more than a single effort to get rid of them. It will take conscious, repeated efforts to get rid of them and restore your life garden to a state of beauty.
BANABU
To having a beautiful Life Garden
Fran Watson
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
Time Management and Goals
I have been having conversations with people lately about Goal Setting and Time Management. Everyone says they don't have enough time to set goals or to accomplish tasks, but the truth is unless you set the goals you will NEVER find the time to complete them. You see you can't really manage time, you can only manage you.
Do you really know what you spend your time on each day? Have you ever taken the time to really look at what you do? How long does it take you to make and eat your breakfast each day? Do you read the paper while you eat? How long does that take? Do you sit and wait for the coffee to perc or do you do other things while it is percolating? What about lunch? Do you eat on the go? Eat at your desk? Go out for lunch? Again, how long does it take?
Have you ever sat down to watch ONE program and found yourself still sitting on the couch 3 hours later? That's because you didn't have a goal, something else you wanted to accomplish that night. If you had, you would have made a decision about whether or not you would even watch the one program, or would you work on a task towards completing your goal.
Do you have a goal you want to achieve? Other than, "I want to be rich and retire." Do you know the exact amount you want to make, the exact amount you would need to retire comfortably, taking into account inflation and what activities you want to do when you retire. Have you written your goal down? Have you begun your yearly, monthly, weekly, daily plan on how you are going to accomplish it? Studies have shown that if you WRITE down your goal and put it somewhere where you will see it every day, you have a better chance of achieving it. If you write it down and set out a plan on how you will achieve it, you are well on your way.
Think about it....A multi-millionaire has the same number of hours in the day as you do, they just do different things with it. You will probably not find them sitting on the couch in their living room watching hour after hour of TV. You will probably find them getting together with people who can help them with their goals.
What do you want to accomplish? Start today by taking a look at how you spend your time and see where you can make some time to work on YOUR GOALS. If you would like a time log to record your time for the next week, send me an email (franlwatson (at) gmail.com) with the subject line "TIME LOG" and I will send you a copy.
It takes time and effort to achieve a goal, but it is always worth it. Start small, reward yourself for accomplishing tasks, but START.
Have a great day!!!
Fran Watson
BANABU
Do you really know what you spend your time on each day? Have you ever taken the time to really look at what you do? How long does it take you to make and eat your breakfast each day? Do you read the paper while you eat? How long does that take? Do you sit and wait for the coffee to perc or do you do other things while it is percolating? What about lunch? Do you eat on the go? Eat at your desk? Go out for lunch? Again, how long does it take?
Have you ever sat down to watch ONE program and found yourself still sitting on the couch 3 hours later? That's because you didn't have a goal, something else you wanted to accomplish that night. If you had, you would have made a decision about whether or not you would even watch the one program, or would you work on a task towards completing your goal.
Do you have a goal you want to achieve? Other than, "I want to be rich and retire." Do you know the exact amount you want to make, the exact amount you would need to retire comfortably, taking into account inflation and what activities you want to do when you retire. Have you written your goal down? Have you begun your yearly, monthly, weekly, daily plan on how you are going to accomplish it? Studies have shown that if you WRITE down your goal and put it somewhere where you will see it every day, you have a better chance of achieving it. If you write it down and set out a plan on how you will achieve it, you are well on your way.
Think about it....A multi-millionaire has the same number of hours in the day as you do, they just do different things with it. You will probably not find them sitting on the couch in their living room watching hour after hour of TV. You will probably find them getting together with people who can help them with their goals.
What do you want to accomplish? Start today by taking a look at how you spend your time and see where you can make some time to work on YOUR GOALS. If you would like a time log to record your time for the next week, send me an email (franlwatson (at) gmail.com) with the subject line "TIME LOG" and I will send you a copy.
It takes time and effort to achieve a goal, but it is always worth it. Start small, reward yourself for accomplishing tasks, but START.
Have a great day!!!
Fran Watson
BANABU
Sunday, January 13, 2013
Goal Setting
Setting Goals
When it comes to resolutions, the inherent problem lies within the name.
A resolution means to resolve to do something. It is a promise to yourself. Unfortunately, it does not include any plans or goals to make the change happen.
To accomplish success you need to pick out a set of goals and make plans to reach those goals, but how do you do this?
Start from the end and work backwards. Determine what your life would be like if you achieved your goal and then look at what you would have had to do in order to get there.
Before stating the goal, write the desired result then ask yourself what steps you need to take to attain it. Determine if money, supplies, or tools are necessary. Have in mind what particular action can be taken to accomplish the resolution.
Next think about how much time you can schedule each day or every week towards working at the goal and what would be reasonable to accomplish in those time slots - half an hour a day, an hour a day, 3 hours a week, etc..
Establish ways to make working at the goal simple. For instance, if it's to improve wellness, then establish an exercise area and mark time for it on a calendar.
If it is to eat better, write a shopping list and stock up on the foods that are necessary, get rid of any junk food in the house and find a number of healthy recipes to put in a convenient location.
Keep any needed supplies or tools that are necessary to accomplish your goal together and accessible.
Plan ways to get and stay motivated to stay on target. For instance, for a physical activity, find a partner or plan a reward (like seeing a movie) for each week goals are met.
You might also want to create and print a chart or check list to track your progress. The chart helps build in accountability.
Write or print out motivational mottos. These can be Scriptures, wise sayings, encouraging words, or cheers. Post them where you will be able to see them easily several times a day.
Ask someone to be an encourager. Let them know what your goal is and ask the person email notes of encouragement. This makes it more social and provides outside motivation.
You can list and post the benefits of your goal, e.g. “I will be able to fit into that beautiful new outfit in the store window.” This keeps you focused on the results.
After a few weeks take some time to evaluate your progress. Decide if the goals are realistic and if you are making progress. Determine whether or not you need to adjust your plans or your time frame.
Mark the calendar ahead for a set day of every month to review your progress. This can keep you motivated or even help you restart if the goal has been abandoned for a few weeks.
Dream big, but break the dream into achievable goals and take it one step at a time. Commit to following the goal and plans laid out, or reassess them and work out something more attainable.
Once you determine your goal, stick with it. Your plans may change, but your goal shouldn’t if it is a true goal.
To your goal setting success!!
Fran Watson
P.S. For more tips click here
When it comes to resolutions, the inherent problem lies within the name.
A resolution means to resolve to do something. It is a promise to yourself. Unfortunately, it does not include any plans or goals to make the change happen.
To accomplish success you need to pick out a set of goals and make plans to reach those goals, but how do you do this?
Start from the end and work backwards. Determine what your life would be like if you achieved your goal and then look at what you would have had to do in order to get there.
Before stating the goal, write the desired result then ask yourself what steps you need to take to attain it. Determine if money, supplies, or tools are necessary. Have in mind what particular action can be taken to accomplish the resolution.
Next think about how much time you can schedule each day or every week towards working at the goal and what would be reasonable to accomplish in those time slots - half an hour a day, an hour a day, 3 hours a week, etc..
Establish ways to make working at the goal simple. For instance, if it's to improve wellness, then establish an exercise area and mark time for it on a calendar.
If it is to eat better, write a shopping list and stock up on the foods that are necessary, get rid of any junk food in the house and find a number of healthy recipes to put in a convenient location.
Keep any needed supplies or tools that are necessary to accomplish your goal together and accessible.
Plan ways to get and stay motivated to stay on target. For instance, for a physical activity, find a partner or plan a reward (like seeing a movie) for each week goals are met.
You might also want to create and print a chart or check list to track your progress. The chart helps build in accountability.
Write or print out motivational mottos. These can be Scriptures, wise sayings, encouraging words, or cheers. Post them where you will be able to see them easily several times a day.
Ask someone to be an encourager. Let them know what your goal is and ask the person email notes of encouragement. This makes it more social and provides outside motivation.
You can list and post the benefits of your goal, e.g. “I will be able to fit into that beautiful new outfit in the store window.” This keeps you focused on the results.
After a few weeks take some time to evaluate your progress. Decide if the goals are realistic and if you are making progress. Determine whether or not you need to adjust your plans or your time frame.
Mark the calendar ahead for a set day of every month to review your progress. This can keep you motivated or even help you restart if the goal has been abandoned for a few weeks.
Dream big, but break the dream into achievable goals and take it one step at a time. Commit to following the goal and plans laid out, or reassess them and work out something more attainable.
Once you determine your goal, stick with it. Your plans may change, but your goal shouldn’t if it is a true goal.
To your goal setting success!!
Fran Watson
P.S. For more tips click here
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