Gettting Started

So, for the past few days I took a break from everything and spent 3 days vegging in a chair and watching shows on PVR, now it is time to get back into gear and I am finding it difficult to do so.  I have neglected my blog, neglected my business, neglected my housekeeping, now it is very difficult to get back into the swing of things, so I started looking at ways to get moving again and Matthew Graves came up with a great idea - 3 Wins a day for 30 Days.  I signed up. 

How about you?  Are you finding it hard to get started on what you need to do?  Are you ready to begin?  I am joining Matthew Graves in a new project - 3 wins every day to move forward for the next 30 days.....  http://ow.ly/WiN3t  They can be business or personal.  Your choice.

It is important to have a plan if you want to succeed and Matthew's plan can help you succeed.

Fran Watson
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Bridging The Gap

Bridging The Gap Between Knowledge and Action

Chances are, you already know what needs to be done.  You know you need to stop procrastinating.  You know you need to watch less TV. You know that you need to set smart goals and intelligent deadlines.  And hopefully, you know you need to track your work, track your results, and put more of your effort into the aspects of your business to give you the strongest results.

But there's a very big gap between knowledge into action.  Think of all the money that's spent on knowledge: whether it's a large companies trying to improve their efficiency, or housewives and stay at home dads trying to get into better shape. They know the adjustments they need to make, but they always fail to set habits and follow though.

Let's look together at some of the gaps that keep you from turning knowledge into profitable and useful habits.

The Fear Of Change
Failure can be comfortable.  It represents a continuation of a routine that, at least on some level, has brought us a lot of pleasure. Now where this breaks down is that pleasure and happiness are two very different things.  Pleasure can be bought with a cookie, it can be found in the bottom of a bottle, you can get a short rush of it with a few minutes on Facebook.

Happiness is harder, and the road towards it is longer, winding, and littered with distractions. The constant pursuit of pleasure, ironically enough, keeps more people away from becoming happy.

You Won't Learn By Doing
There are too many people who tried to do by learning instead of learning by doing.  Talking about problems to death rarely solves them. People talk too much already.  It's natural to want to go into a scary situation with knowledge at your back. But once you've learned the basics of a skill, start acting on it.  Then look for new information once you've run into a serious roadblock, or have a smaller aspect of the skill that demands your attention.

You Rely On Motivation Instead Of Habit
It's okay to "feel unmotivated" sometimes, to hit a roadblock and need something positive to dig you out. But you're always needing to be motivated for any kind of positive action in your life, it's a sign that you haven't really put the energy you should into setting habits.

Habits aren't subjects that need motivation.  Habits are things that we just do, whether it's a good time or a bad time.  If you can devote one month to establishing a positive habit, chances are much better that you do it for a long time to come.

Accepting "Life Excuses"
Too many people take "life happens" as an excuse not to do the things that they should.  It's almost like there's no effort to leap the obstacles that life puts in front of them.  It's important to set uninterrupted times and uninterrupted places for the most important priorities cannot be violated. 

When you give yourself a choice between any two things, there's a chance you will take the less beneficial choice.

Set up at daily routine that eliminates those choices.

Going From Zero To A Hundred
When it sinks in how far behind we are on our goals, it's easy to try to do too much at once and destroy our desire to improve altogether. While there are people who can handle this sort of drastic shift, for most people it'll be best to start small, focus on repetitive action, and scale up from there!

No More Excuses
The time for learning and not doing it over. Step up and start making a serious change in the way you approach problems... right now!

BANABU

Fran Watson

Develop Your Intuition

The Road to Intuition

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this
huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise,
that "hunch" was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without a logical basis to
that thought, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions:
clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through
listening.

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is
when you know what is happening somewhere else.
Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut
feeling." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling
and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."

On the other hand, feeling through listening is being able to
"listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a
certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's
twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.

It is claimed that only a number of people are gifted with intuition.
Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces
signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies
have been developing left and right that proclaim that anyone can
develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your
emotional and psychological state remain as it is?

First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes
you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from
hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand
them. Intuition also makes you far more creative. Intuition means
releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly,
intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the
physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some
negative energy buried in it.

With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here
are some ways to unlock this gift:

1. Hypnosis
Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth.
You can perform self-hypnosis or you can obtain hypnotic programs
that can strengthen your intuition.

2. Meditation
Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart
are cluttered with too much baggage and hurt, you wouldn't be able to
quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition.
There are many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply
practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

3. Think positive!
A worry-free, fear-free state can do much to improve your intuitive
ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be
able to recognize imminent feelings and events.

4.  Just let go.
What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge
decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place
where you could find out where the letting go has brought you.
Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that
voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.

5. Never expect.
After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop
you from thinking and feeling clearly, don't expect an answer right
away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap
immediately. Give it a little time - then you just get surprised that
-- wham! -- now you have your answer.

6. Believe in your first impressions.
When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit
too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually
holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by
intuition.

7. Stay happy!
All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts
immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your
intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given
that premise, intuition will fall to you more easily.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something
that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by
intuition alone. Decisions are easier when armed with this gift.

BANABU

Fran Watson

Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.

Weeds or Flowers?

This afternoon I had a chance to get back out into my garden for a few minutes.  I was enjoying the beautiful flowers, but I noticed how quickly the weeds had grown up and how they were trying to take over the garden.  As I pulled them out I thought about how much like life this is. 

We "plant" beautiful deeds in our lives and we go along for a little while quite comfortably but then we notice that some "weeds" have sprung up.  Perhaps someone said something and your feelings were hurt.  Perhaps you said something to someone that you now regret.  Perhaps you didn't get the job you wanted, the project you were hoping for, the raise you expected and the niggling doubts (weeds) started taking over. 

It doesn't take long for the negativity to set in after that and unless you get rid of those weeds quickly they can take over and you  begin to feel some signs of depression.  You may wake up in the morning and not want to get out of bed.  You may not want to get out and socialize with your friends.  You may sit around your house moping.

It is important to deal with those "weeds" as soon as they start.  It is much easier to pluck them when they are small rather than wait until they have grown and firmly implanted themselves in the garden. 

Unfortunately for me today, it had been a long time since I was able to get in the garden due to weather and my schedule so many of those weeds were quite firmly implanted and it is going to take more than one session to get rid of them.  It is the same with the "weeds" in our life. 

It takes approximately 3 weeks to make or break a habit, so if the weeds are firmly implanted in your life, it will take more than a single effort to get rid of them.  It will take conscious, repeated efforts to get rid of them and restore your life garden to a state of beauty.

BANABU

To having a beautiful Life Garden

Fran Watson

How Are You Doing?

Every time I log into Facebook, it asks me "What's on your mind?"  I wonder why they want to know, are they really interested in who I am and what I am thinking about or are they just trying to figure out how they can market to me?

Have you ever felt that when people ask the question, "How are you doing?" they are just waiting to tell you how they are doing, but they want to be polite and ask you first? 

It seems to me that it happens more and more often.  People also ask the question as they pass you on the street, but they really don't expect you to stop and tell them.  "Hi, how are you doing?" they say as they walk on by.  I sometimes wonder what would happen if you stopped and said, "Actually, I'm not doing very well.  I had this (operation/accident/event) happen and ......"  Can't you just picture them squirming and wanting to get away?

How many times have you asked the question and not waited for the answer?  Or just expected someone to say "great, how are you?" as they pass on by. 

Well, today, I want to really ask you... "How are you doing?"  Are things going well in your life?  Do you need a little help or support?  A listening ear?  If so, post a message below or send me an email.  I will take the time to listen and respond to you.

Have a great day!!

Fran Watson

Illusions of Limitations

This video was sent to me today. I wanted to share it with you.

May it touch your life.

Fran

What's Happening?

Hi

I hadn't realized how long it had been since I had posted until today. Since April I was involved in a local event - The Diversity Festival- which was held on July 7th and involved people from all walks of life - health and beauty, massage, cultures, United Way, local vendors, animal rescue, immigration, alternative lifestyles - wow, it was amazing. We had a day in the park and two performances of Dragon's Breath. I was in both and also in the one we did in Almonte in May. It took a lot of my time but it was energizing and satisfying, and it was Building A New And Better Universe for many!

I recently began to listen to Mike's material again and I will soon be able to offer some of it to my blog readers. If you are interested, please leave a comment below. In particular I have been relistening to Mike's 11 Principles. I will be posting some of my thoughts over the next few weeks.

Hope to see you here again soon.

Fran
BANABU

Inspirational THoughts

How many times have you had a thought about contacting someone, but didn't follow through?

I read a post this morning about someone who had a good friend that she had lost touch with and then had the chance to reconnect with, but then found out the friend had cancer. She thought about writing a card to say how much she appreciated her friendship, but just couldn't seem to get started...and then it was too late, her friend was gone.

How many times have you held on to something saying, "I'm keeping it for something special." You may have read a story about a husband finding a beautiful red slip in his wife's lingerie drawer that she was saving for "just the right time", but now she was gone.

Too often we let the moments pass, the moments that can change not only our life, but the life of the person we share with. Too often we let our busyness get in the way of reaching out and touching someone.

As I sit here typing this, I am reminded of my good neighbour down the road who is 96 and in failing health. Why am I not down there visiting her instead of sitting at my computer? Why not, indeed. I think I will call her up and see if she feels like a visit from me. I could certainly use a visit with her.

Stop and think for a moment....who do you need to reach out to right now?

Now, do it.

Fran

The Optimist's Creed

by Christian D. Larson |

"Your Forces and How to Use Them"

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet.

To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

To your success

BANABU

Fran Watson

Where Are You Going?

10 Driving Tips On the Road To Your Dreams
- Tara Sage Steeves, Create Your Life Inc.

Where are YOU going?

I often rave about my GPS, a cherished "gift that keeps on giving". Not only do I love it because of the ease and confidence it offers me in finding my way, but this fabulous little computer also calculates my anticipated time of arrival. I just love that... Short of something catastrophic or a massive detour, I breathe easier knowing when and where I'll arrive at my destination.

But wait, there's more!

In the event of a missed turn, Jill (yes, that's her name) echos the word "recalculating" while identifying an alternate route that will take me to my destination. No judgment or panic, simply: recalculating. Ahhh...anyone who's ridden in my car with me knows first-hand, that I have great affection for my GPS.

On the road to realizing your dreams, there is much to be learned from this nifty little invention.


10 DRIVING TIPS ON THE ROAD TO YOUR DREAMS:

1. Unless you know your destination, a GPS will not be much use to you. You must choose a destination! This is not to say you can't change direction at any time, it just means that in order to receive guidance about where to go, you must begin by choosing which way to head. (By the way, there is of course not a thing wrong with a joy-ride, as long as you don't feel any particular urgency to get anywhere in particular.)

2. When would you like to arrive? Are you traveling, by foot, bike, car...? Take into account how fast you're able to travel for a steady distance, and when you would like to arrive. With a bit of planning, you'll be able to easily assess how soon to set out on your journey and what to pack.

3. Give yourself some extra time so you can stop along the way to refuel.

4. Remember: You are in the drivers seat.

5. Enjoy the ride. Half the fun is getting there.

6. If it feels daunting to go it alone, find others who are heading in a similar direction to join you. (See below for more info on this!)

7. Pace yourself.

8. Glance in the rear-view mirror periodically, but keep your primary focus on what's in front of you.

9. Celebrate each milestone along the way, knowing that every step counts.

10. Don't doubt and question whether or not you'll get there! Just keep going...



Dreaming together creates a very special bond. Similar to how a GPS can guide you to your destination, our programs will guide you to realize your life dreams and goals - and take the most direct route!

You don't have to use any more precious fuel spinning your wheels. If you are tired of going it alone or know it's time to ask for directions, our programs are here to move you forward at an accelerated pace...

"We are not even half-way through The Dream-Acceleration™ Program, and I have been having one incredible synergistic day after another! Tara said this process would be mysterious and profound - and she wasn't kidding! After living most of my life letting life happen to me, I am finally making my life happen on my terms by applying the tips and step-by-step tools that I have learned over these short few weeks. Tears of joy have been to my soul, what soap is to the body! I'm so excited about the clarity I have, and the realization that I really don't have to do it alone. Now, there's no question in my mind that I will LIVE my dream, not just dream it. Thank you!" ~ Laurie G.

"The Dream Circle allows each person to voice their dreams with no fear of put-down. It's exciting to see how seeds developed as each session moved along and witnessing how dreams morph or become far more defined. The inspiration is two-fold. It feels so very good to help others by offering positive, constructive feedback, and in turn that same constructive feedback helps you crystalize your own dream more clearly. Together we created a circle where each other's ideas evolved from concepts, to an outline, to attainability. It was magical." ~ Hilary S., Newport, RI



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May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.

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BANABU

Fran Watson

Are You Living Your Life On Purpose?

TOOLS FOR LIVING TRUE TO YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Life On Purpose Institute, Inc. 2001

PURPOSE PRACTICES: An activity that is engaged in on a regular basis that has the person be present to and aware of their life purpose.

PURPOSE PONDERINGS: A question that is posed each day that presences the person's life purpose while they 'ponder' it.

PURPOSEFUL PLAY: Working on a project, goal, or task in such a way that you're willing to play and experiment with it while having a particular plan or intention. The secret to purposeful play is being committed to a particular result or outcome without being attached to that outcome.

There are 3 important parts to this tool for living on purpose:
1. The experience or way of being you enter into a project, goal or task. In purposeful play you're ready to experiment, to explore and to discover -- there's a lightness and playfulness.
2. At the same time, your actions are not random but are guided by an intention or purpose.
3. Last of all, the freedom to be playful comes from staying committed to the project, goal or task without getting attached to the results.

PURPOSE PROJECTS: A set of actions with specific results that are measurable that is a natural expression of one's life purpose. While working to fulfill the project, the person is more alive and aware of their life purpose.

LIFE PURPOSE COACHING: A generative conversation that supports a person in clarifying their life purpose as well as providing a structure for them to live true to their purpose over time. Individual life purpose coaching is available through Life On Purpose Institute.

PURPOSE POD: A group of like-minded people meeting on a regular basis to assist each other in clarifying their life purpose and living true to it. Purpose pods may meet in person, through teleconferencing or online through 'chat-sessions.'

PURPOSE PRAYER: A type of purpose passage, a purpose prayer is a longer passage that includes your life purpose that you say with passion and as a created declaration of who you intend to be that day.

PURPOSE PLATITUDE: A platitude is defined as a banal, trite or stale remark. And that's what your created life purpose statement will turn into if you don't keep it fresh, alive and flourishing in awareness and consciousness.

PURPOSE PARTNERS: People who know you and relate to you as your created life purpose. The more purpose partners you have the easier it is to stay true to your created purpose.

PURPOSE PARADOXES: Not so much a tool as what you can expect to 'bump' into along the way as you live true to your purpose. The more comfortable you can become with purpose paradoxes the more powerful you will be able to live your life purpose. As Gregg Levoy says in his book, Callings: Living the Authentic Life: "Heroism can be redefined for our age as the ability to tolerate paradox, to embrace seemingly opposing forces without rejecting one or the other just for the sheer relief of it."

One of my favorite purpose paradox that is particularly useful with Purpose Projects is found in purposeful play -- playing full out with an intention, purpose and often specific results in mind, while at the same time staying unattached whether those intentions or results are actually produced.

PURPOSE PIVOTING: A purpose pivot is the act of distinguishing when your inherited purpose is shaping your life, and the choosing to have your created life purpose shape your life instead. Once you've distinguished your inherited purpose and your created life purpose, it's possible to stay on purpose by pivoting. Whenever you notice your inherited purpose beginning to shape your life, you can stop the action for the moment, distinguish what is happening and then begin to pivot to your created life purpose. The more you practice pivoting the better you'll get, and the earlier you can detect your inherited purpose, the easier it will be to pivot as well.

PURPOSEFUL POW-WOWS: During a purposeful pow-wow, you consciously take time in your day to focus on your created life purpose and what you want to create in your life as an expression of your purpose. During a purpose pow-wow, you align your thought, feelings and emotions to powerfully and energetically attract the resources needed to continue to live and express your purpose. Then you maintain your thoughts, and feelings as you take action throughout the day.

ON PURPOSE & OFF PURPOSE PATTERNS: We are all creatures of habits and patterns. Some of our patterns are on purpose -- consistent with our created life purpose -- and some are off purpose -- consistent with our inherited purpose. It is possible and highly recommended to distinguish your off purpose patterns and begin to release them as you create new on purpose patterns in your life.

To Living Your Life On Purpose!

Fran

P.S. For some help in living a purposeful life: Click here

Bob Proctor Changes Lives

The Difference between Success and Failure is that Successful people make a habit of doing things they don't like to do.

If you can have moments of greatness, you can be great all the time.

In life you are either consistent or non-existent. Be Consistent!! -

Persistence is the 8th step to Riches.

You don't have to change a lot, just change a little.

All of the above quotes are from Bob Proctor. If you don't know who he is or how he can help you, then click here.

I have been listening to Bob Proctor's material for some years now and what he says makes sense. Lately I have subscribed to his Six Minutes 2 Success program. Each day I get a video on a particular topic for the day. It truly does make a difference. Find out more here:

Take the time to check out what Bob has to offer you. Don't waste your potential.

To your Success!!

Fran Watson

P.S. Remember: YOu don't have to get it right, you just have to get it going!!

Don't Let Your "Not Now" become your "Never

by Roslyn Franken

"How soon 'not now' becomes 'never'" - Martin Luther

How true is that quote? For example, how many times do you think about going for a walk or doing a workout and you say you'll do it 'later' and then it never happens?

This kind of 'not now' attitude can be paralyzing. We have the best of desires and intentions but due to our own fears, laziness or mixed up priorities, we just never seem to get ahead and reach our goals.

Here are some questions for you to think about and 5 Steps to help you break free from your 'Not Now' attitude. If you have questions and/or would like to share your answers for feedback, send email to info@roslynfranken.com

What are some of the things you want to improve in your life that you are saying 'not now' to? For example, are you looking to...

lose weight and get in shape?
improve your overall health and well-being?
have more energy?
have more fun, laughter and passion in your life?
be happier, relax more and have greater inner peace?
slow down your busy life?
make better decisions?
If these are things you want to do, have or be, then are you going to sit back and let your 'not now' turn into your 'never'?

We all put things off at different times in our lives for different reasons. Especially when it comes to our health and happiness goals, it's so easy to procrastinate. I hear it all the time.

I'm too busy
I'm too tired
I don't have time
I'm too lazy
I don't have money
I should be able to do it on my own
Do any of these sound familiar? If yes, then let's look at the high cost of your 'not now' attitude.

Every time there is something you know you need to do and you say to yourself 'now now' or 'I'll do it later', all you are doing is setting yourself up for the inevitable stress and overwhelm that will result because the more you say this to yourself and the more you don't take care of the things you truly want to take care of in your life, the worse you will feel about yourself and the more you'll get stuck in this vicious cycle.

By putting off your health and happiness goals, the cost can be tremendous. For example, if you're too tired and lazy to eat properly, exercise and get proper rest, then your heart and blood will get tired and lazy too. When your heart and blood get tired and lazy, it is called a HEART ATTACK. If that happens, then what? It is going to cost you a lot more time, money and energy to get back on your feet to where you were at prior to the heart attack, if ever, than if you invested in yourself to start with which could have prevented the heart attack to begin with.

So here are 5 steps to break free from this unhealthy cycle.

DON'T PUT THIS OFF TILL LATER - don't think to yourself, "Oh, this sounds good, but I'll read it later"
MAKE YOUR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS YOUR TOP PRIORITIES - Yes. Your work, family and other responsibilities are important, but if you are not taking care of YOU, you will continue to live a limited life physically, mentally, emotionally and spirtitually. When you take charge of your health and happiness, it changes your whole outlook and quality of life. If you have the power to improve your health and happiness starting today, what would stop you?
MAKE THE DECISION TO EMBRACE CHANGE NOW - be honest with yourself right this moment. If you're a 'not now' person and it is clearly not serving you, then make the decision this moment to embrace change instead of continuing to resist it tooth and nail. It's time to let go of the resistance. Just letting go will help you feel better.
BE WILLING TO DO THE WORK AND MAKE THE COMMITMENT - Improving your health, your body, your outlook and your quality of life takes work. If you truly want to be healthier and happier, it takes time, effort and commitment. What you put in will determine what you get out of it and believe me that it is all so worth it if you just give yourself permission to DO IT.
TAKE ACTION - I often hear people say they're afraid of taking action because they're afraid of change, afraid of failure, or afraid they're too lazy to do the work and make the commitment. I encourage you to feel the fears, recognize the self-doubts, ignore the laziness and DO IT anyways. Sometimes it's that first step that is the hardest. I encourage you to dig deep and fine the courage to step beyond your fears, rise to the occasion, stand tall and make things happen. You can do it!
These five steps are so important for any positive change you want to make in your life. Don't let your 'not now' become your 'never'.

Roslyn Franken is a proud cancer survivor who has also overcome her own personal battles with food, weight and healthy lifestyle obstacles. She now helps people live healthier, happier lives by sharing the 9 healthy living principles found in her ground breaking book, The A List: 9 Guiding Principles for Healthy Eating and Positive Living. She offers tele-coaching and support programs and motivational speaking services. For more information and to join Roslyn's mailing list for healthy tips, recipes and special anouncements, visit RoslynFranken.com

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FOCUS - Follow One Course Until Successful

To your success
Fran

What Is Holding You Back??

Learn to express rather than impress. Expressing evokes a "me too" attitude while impressing evokes a "so what" attitude. E. James Rohn

It's Not What You Are That Holds You Back...

A while back I spoke to a group in Houston and I showed them pictures of some very famous people.

They included Thomas Edison, Cher, Walt Disney, Richard Branson, Jay Leno, Whoopi Goldberg, Ted Turner and my hero Winston Churchill.

Then I asked the audience what they all had in common.

Can you guess?

There were quite a few answers from the audience and they were all wrong. It was only after I pulled out $100 and offered it as a prize that a person in the back overcame his fear of being wrong and volunteered the correct answer....

....they were all dyslexic!

I pointed out that the role that made each of them famous also required a lot of reading. Do you know how hard it is for a dyslexic person to read? But not a single one of those great people that I cited let dyslexia keep them from being all they were created to be.

That's why one of my most favorite quotes is, "It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you're not."

I use that quote by Denis Waitley virtually every time I speak to an audience. Because it really speaks to the problem I think most people have in struggling for success --- they believe they're lacking something that, if they possessed it, would make them successful. When the truth is, they already possess everything they need to be successful, they just need to learn how to use it to their advantage.

from Vic and Lisa Johnson
For My Daily Insights


What is holding you back?
What is it that you want to accomplish?
What do you need to do in order to achieve it?
Winners are those who persist and develop habits of success.

To your success

Fran Watson

Our Beliefs About Ourselves

Our beliefs about ourselves

One of the greatest lessons in life I believe you can learn is the benefit of taking full and complete responsibility in your life for each and every part of your life, good, bad or indifferent.

Not from the point of view of assigning blaming, guilt or shame. Simply from the point of understanding, gaining insight and clarity of what you’ve done, why you’ve chosen to do it, what the payoff is. From there it allows us to be in a position to make better and more empowering choices next time to better support your life.

Our life is a reflection of our thoughts.

If you were to evaluate your life would you feel as though you are living into your greatest purpose or passion?

If the answer is no or you’re not sure here are some questions to ask yourself ;

1. Who am I?

2. What do I do?

3. Why do I do what I do?

4. What will my biggest legacy be?

5. What do I believe about myself to be true?

6. Does what I currently believe about myself support my ideal self?

7. What are the payoffs for the negative beliefs I have about myself?

8. Can I identify my negative beliefs about myself?

9. What am I willing to believe about myself that would best support my life?

10. What belief do I currently hold about myself that is getting in the way of what I am deserve?

11. What action steps can I take to accept and fully love myself for who I am now?

It’s only when we take the time to intentionally question who we are, what beliefs we hold about ourselves and how we’re showing up in life do we start the process of taking full and complete responsibility for ourselves and our lives.

Taking responsibility for our lives includes understanding why we’ve made the choices we’ve made, understanding that our limiting beliefs drive most of our behaviours.



We attract to our life what we’re putting out in terms of our energies and also our beliefs about ourselves and about other people, situations and circumstances.

So with that knowledge in hand it allows us to make some better and more empowering choices and decisions.

Once you identify what your negative beliefs are then you are in a position to change those beliefs to more positive ones that can be done through writing positive affirmations. Turning the negative belief or statement about yourself into a more positive one.

As you continue to practice believing more positive things about yourself they eventually become a habit. They become a part of your natural make up and your daily practice to fully know that you are an amazing person complete and whole in your essence of simply being.

With kindest of intentions

Nancy Battye

http://nancybattye.com/2011/06/

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I hope you enjoyed this

Fran

Getting Real!!

Today's focus in the 8 step personal development series is Getting Real!

You do not have to be anybody other than your authentic self. This does not mean wearing your favorite worn out jeans or yoga pants to the next corporate meeting. What this does mean ...

March to the beat of your own drum whenever you can!

You are unique.

You are a miracle.

You are a graceful creator.

You matter.

Your true path may never be revealed if you spend your life behaving like you "should".

"Well behaved women rarely make history." - Louisa May Alcott

Why on Earth would you spend your life doing things over and over that you have no interest in, or continue in a career or relationship that is no longer fulfilling? If your answer is security, think again...

It's never too soon, nor too late to discover your passion and live your life on your own terms.

Years ago my mentor coach asked me to work on a creative project to identify what kind of a professional coach I wanted to be.

The mission... Create a simple picture of ME in my element, surrounded by all of the props and things that light me up as woman. A brand new box of crayons and a short time later, "Super Shann" was created.

You might begin with a comparison and contrast of the person you are at work and the person you are at home with friends and family. Which person is more authentic?

There is no need to be an experienced artist. Just get started and have fun with the process.
Check out my rendition of "Super Shann" a fun picture illustrating this creative idea.

Groovy Action Plan

What do you enjoy the most about your career / business / job?

What are you truly passionate about?

Can you surround yourself with more inspiration?

Draw a fun and vibrant picture of your authentic self, who you are under all of the layers of who you "should" be.

Feeling brave and silly? Email me your picture and I'll post it on the True Balance Life Coaching blog.

Next up ... What Makes You Tick?


Although this material is subject to copyright, you may reprint this publication, in whole or in part, in your company publication, in training, presentations, or wherever you feel it would be of benefit. This also holds true for members of the media. All I ask is that you include the following: Reprinted with permission from Shann Vander Leek, True Balance Life Coaching, LLC. www.truebalancelifecoaching.com


I hope you enjoyed this. You can sign up for your own free e-course.

Fran Watson

David Childerley

I just noticed this video at the bottom of my post and wanted to share it with you.  I, myself, will be putting it on my webpage to review on a regular basis.  You can check out David's other videos on YouTube.



To your personal growth and happiness

Fran
http://www.franwatson.ca/

Your Fourth Wife.....

The King's Four Wives

By Author Unknown

Once upon a time there was a rich king who had four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and adorned her with riches. He also loved his third wife and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he always feared that she would leave him. His second wife was kind and considerate and his trusted confidante and advisor in difficult times. Wife number one was devoted and loyal and although she loved him deeply, he was not so interested and tended to ignore her.

One day, the king fell ill and knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and feared being alone when he died.

He asked his fourth wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" she replied and walked away without another word.

The sad king then asked the third wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company? " "No!" she replied. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!"

He then asked the second wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" she replied. "At the very most, I can help with your funeral."

Then a voice called out to the king in his sadness: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The king looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny and undernourished. Greatly grieved, the king said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"

In truth, we all have four wives in our lives. Our fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die. Our third wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others. Our second wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave. And our first wife is our soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the ego. However, our soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.

The moral of the story: Look after your body and keep it healthy so you can live life to its fullest. Enjoy your possessions and the comfort they provide. Cherish your friends and family and the love they provide. But don't forget to nourish your soul--it is the source of all your life and your most faithful friend.

In peace and love
Fran
http://www.franwatson.ca/

Being Your Best

We moved our Japanese Maple out of the shade of the Aspens maybe a month ago, placing it closer to our front door in full sun. Before, a few leaves were red, most others green or kind of purple. Since being replanted it has exploded in an all over palette of red and crimson and scarlet and magenta. It is a constant delight. And we think it’s very happy! I hope this image delights you.

From:  http://paulandlayne.com/blog/

As I read this quote on Paul and Layne’s blog today I thought about how it relates to people. How often do we wither when we are in the wrong workplace, the wrong relationship, the wrong situation for us?

Think of the changes you have seen in people you know when they met the “right” person, got the “right” job for them or moved out of a bad situation. Just like the Maple, they burst into life and their happiness explodes around them affecting everyone and everything.

If you are in a bad situation, you owe it to yourself to move into the light. Expose yourself to the warmth and possibilities. Explore your potential. If it is your job, look around and find another one. Don’t be trapped by false thinking. Maybe you’ve been told, “You’ve got a good job with good pay, you should stay there.” If you are unhappy, then all the money isn’t going to make you happy. You owe it to yourself to explore the type of job you really want, one that will make you happy. You are worth it.

If you are in a bad relationship, it’s time to move on. If you are in an abusive relationship, it’s time to run as fast as you can away from the situation and get yourself into a safe place. Every relationship has its ups and downs, as well as some bumps and hiccups, that’s normal, but if you can’t find any of the joy, then why stay? But be honest, not deceitful. Don’t carry on with another person while you are still in the relationship. Make a clean break. You need to get to know yourself before you start over or you may find yourself in the same type of relationship you just left.

You are what you believe you are. Your thoughts make you. Think happy, positive thoughts. Let them course through your body and burst forth like the leaves on the maple. Be bright. Be happy. Be who you really are!

To being your best self


Fran

www.banabu.ca

Paths of Life

Had you trodden a different path,
Life sweeter might have been;
And riches might have come your way,
With every day serene.
Dream not of yesteryears, I say,
But make the utmost of today.

What's the weather like today where you live?  Is it bright and sunny, or is it overcast and dull like it is where I live.  A dark, foggy morning can often cause a bit of depression in the kitchen, where chores must be done, or in the office, where nobody feels like singing.  But, of course, such circumstances are a challenge, aren't they.  Here are a few lines by Viney Wilder which may help us make it through those dull days.

Do the job that lies before you'
Keep your courage one more day.
You can never guess how often
You affect some other life
By the fact that you're a doer,
Not a quitter, in the strife.


Just say a little word today
That brings a happy smile.
Just do a little kindness which
May warm some heart a while.
Just share the burden, if you may,
Of someone on the road today.

Life is better when you are helping others.  It warrms both your heart and theirs and makes everyone's day a little more pleasant, and the gift you give to others gets passed on.

Have a wonderful, wonderful day, no matter what the weather where you are.

Fran Watson