ABCs of MOTIVATION, THE HEART OF SELF IMPROVEMENT
A - Action. Take action to create the life you want. Avoid negative people, things and places. Achieve your dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
B - Believe in yourself, and in what you can do.
C – Consider every angle and aspect of a situation. Motivation comes from determination. Once you have conceived the solution, take action.
D – Determination. Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed over and over again before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb.
E – Enjoy life. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation is easier when you are happy.
F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them.
G – Give more than what is expected.
H – Hang on to your dreams. These little stars will be your driving force.
I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay away from toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success and only wants to talk about their failures..
J – Joy. Experience joy in some form everyday.
K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. Take one step at a time, putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time.
L – Learn to love yourself. Sometimes this may be difficult, but look at things you do well, ask people what they like about you and really listen to what they say.
M – Maintain your momentum. Make things happen. Motivation is putting your dreams into work clothes.
N – Never lie, cheat or steal. .
O – Optimism -look for the positive in every situation..
P – Positivism. Practice makes perfect. Prepare for your future.
Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. Get started now.
R – Regrets - get rid of them. Ready yourself to move forward.
S – Smile. It is amazing how much a smile can change your day and also other people's days. Share your smile with everyone you meet.
T – Thoughts. Take control of your thoughts and you take control of your life.
U – Understand others. Seek first to understand and then to be understood.
V – Visualize what you want for your life. Really visualize ALL of it - what you want, what you need.
W – Want it more than anything. If you want it enough, you will achieve it.
X – X-tra The "X Factor" is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to find time for “extras” in your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.
Y – YOU are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence.
Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!
To your personal success
Fran Watson
Showing posts with label self help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self help. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
Monday, June 23, 2014
Procrastination
Procrastination: to be slow or late about doing something that should be done : to delay doing something until a later time because you do not want to do it, because you are lazy, etc.
An old English proverb says: "One of these days is none of these days." If you don't have a plan it doesn't get done.
Unfortunately as you can see by the dates of my blog, I fell into the procrastination trap, getting up too late to spend the necessary time to accomplish everything I wanted to do. Also, the main thing is, I did not have a written plan to spend the time updating my blogs. When I had it written in my daytimer, it happened, when it wasn't there............nothing happened.
Have you found this happening to you? Have you been procrastinating on a task or tasks that you know you should be doing and want to be doing? Time to write it down. An unknown author wrote: "The past cannot be changed; the future is still in your power." This means that you can begin again TODAY.
Start by writing down what you want to accomplish. Then write down when you want to accomplish it by. Then break it down into little steps - something you can do each day. Write your goal in the comments section below. Once you put it in print, you will have a much greater chance of accomplishing it.
To your success
BANABU
Fran Watson
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Your 7 Day Program to Self-Development
"A Better You"
Your 7 day program to self-development
I seem to lost count on how many times I've
read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. Not that I
care (and personally I don't), it seems strange that we often see movie and TV
stars as flawless people, living the fairytale life of riches and glamour. I
suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.
There are many ways to lose your sense of
self-esteem despite of how trivial it could get. But whatever happens, we
should all try not to lose our own sense of self.
So what does it take to be a cut above the
rest? Here are some of the things you can think and improve on that should be
enough for a week.
1. Know
your purpose: Are you wandering through
life with little direction -hoping that you'll find happiness, health and
prosperity?
Identify your life purpose or mission
statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your
truth north every time. This may seem
tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight or even dead end. But
there's always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a
big difference to yourself.
2. Know
your values: What do you value most?
Make a list of your top 5 values.
Some examples are security, freedom,
family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for 2012 - check
your goals against your values. If the goal doesn't align with any of your top
five values - you may want to reconsider it or revise it. The number shouldn't discourage you, instead
it should motivate you to do more than you can ever dream of.
3. Know
your needs: Unmet needs can keep you
from living authentically.
Take care of yourself. Do you have a need
to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so
many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of
them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top
four needs and get them met before it's too late!
4. Know
your passions: You know who you are
and what you truly enjoy in life.
Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm
will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you
ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to
become the very person you wanted to be.
5. Live
from the inside out: Increase your
awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence.
Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to
quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city slickers it's hard to even find the peace
and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case I often just sit in a dimly
lit room and play some classical music. There's sound, yes, but music does
soothe the savage beast.
6. Honor
your strengths: What are your
positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three - if you get
stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative,
witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through
your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what
you know to others.
7. Serve
others: When you live authentically,
you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being.
When you are true to who you are, living
your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back
in service what you came to share with others -your spirit - your essence. The
rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much
more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have
done to them.
Self-development is indeed one type of work
that is worth it. It shouldn't always be within the confines of an office
building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within
ourselves and how much we want to change for the better.
To your success
Fran
P.S. Check out this Ultimate Success Program
To your success
Fran
P.S. Check out this Ultimate Success Program
Saturday, January 12, 2013
The Bottom Line
FACE IT.....nobody owes you a living.
What you achieve or fail to achieve in your lifetime is directly related to what you do or fail to do.
No one chooses his or her parents or childhood, but you can choose your own direction.
NOTHING is carved in stone. However if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got.
You can change anything in your life if you want to badly enough. Too many of us are hung up on what we don't have, can't have, or won't ever have. We spend too much energy being down, when we could use that same energy - if not less of it - doing, or at least trying to do, some of the things we really want to do. - Terry McMillan, Writer
Time plays no favourites and will pass whether you act or not. Every time you wake up and ask yourself, "What good things am I going to do today?" remember that when the sun goes down at sunset, it will take a part of your life with it.
Excuses are for losers. Benjamin Franklin said that "He who is good at making excuses is seldom good at anything else." Those who take responsibility for their actions are the real winners in life.
Winners meet life's challenges head on, knowing there are no guarantees, and give it all they've got.
It's TIME to TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
"You can truly be whatever you want to be...you only have to want it badly enought to succeed." Lillian Vernon.
Dare to dream....to take risks... Never think it's too late or too early to begin.
As Dr. Norman Vincent Peale said: "The Greatest POWER we have is the power of choice. It's an actual fact that if you've been moping in unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead and, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. Even in darkest grief you have a choice. The whole trend and quality of anyone's life is determined in the long run by the choices that are made."
So what do you choose to do today?
Fran Watson
www.franwatson.ca
What you achieve or fail to achieve in your lifetime is directly related to what you do or fail to do.
No one chooses his or her parents or childhood, but you can choose your own direction.
NOTHING is carved in stone. However if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got.
You can change anything in your life if you want to badly enough. Too many of us are hung up on what we don't have, can't have, or won't ever have. We spend too much energy being down, when we could use that same energy - if not less of it - doing, or at least trying to do, some of the things we really want to do. - Terry McMillan, Writer
Time plays no favourites and will pass whether you act or not. Every time you wake up and ask yourself, "What good things am I going to do today?" remember that when the sun goes down at sunset, it will take a part of your life with it.
Excuses are for losers. Benjamin Franklin said that "He who is good at making excuses is seldom good at anything else." Those who take responsibility for their actions are the real winners in life.
Winners meet life's challenges head on, knowing there are no guarantees, and give it all they've got.
It's TIME to TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
"You can truly be whatever you want to be...you only have to want it badly enought to succeed." Lillian Vernon.
Dare to dream....to take risks... Never think it's too late or too early to begin.
As Dr. Norman Vincent Peale said: "The Greatest POWER we have is the power of choice. It's an actual fact that if you've been moping in unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead and, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. Even in darkest grief you have a choice. The whole trend and quality of anyone's life is determined in the long run by the choices that are made."
So what do you choose to do today?
Fran Watson
www.franwatson.ca
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Habits
A habit is something that you do so often and so regularly that it becomes automatic. This is a behavior that you can easily repeat.
Our habits are directly related to our comfort and well-being. The process of adapting to our environment is what creates a habit. With habits we don't have to constantly experiment or deal with unknown risks.
Our habits help define us. The way we adapt to our environment and how we typically behave say a lot about who we are as human beings. What do we know about someone with the habit of not eating meat? What about someone with the habit of smoking cigarettes? How about the person with the habit of running five miles each day?
Do you have a habit that you would like to get rid of? I was just listening to Bob Proctor (Six Minutes To Success) this morning and he talked about habits and what we need to do to be successful.
Replace Rather than Change a Habit
Habits are extremely difficult to change because they are tied to our identities. Notice that I haven't said anything about "breaking a habit." I avoid that terminology because, as Bob said, a habit is dependent on repetition. Therefore, if we replace the activity that is the former habit–such as lighting a cigarette after dinner–with some other activity–such as taking a walk or chewing a stick of gum–the repetition ceases and the coding of the smoking habit is reduced dramatically.
The key to succeeding in replacing old habits with new ones is ensuring that the new behaviors are more appealing, effective, and beneficial than their predecessors.
In effect, replacing less effective habits with more effective ones, and creating new habits that foster greater success and well-being, is the most expedient ways to increase and expand your personal brilliance.
"It’s impressive to recognize that all the great leaders in all walks of life, and during all periods of history, have attained their leadership by the application of their abilities behind a definite major purpose. It’s no less impressive to observe that those who are classified as failures have no such purpose but they go around and around like a ship without a rudder, coming back always empty handed to their starting point.” From Napoleon Hill's The Master Key To Riches
Our habits are directly related to our comfort and well-being. The process of adapting to our environment is what creates a habit. With habits we don't have to constantly experiment or deal with unknown risks.
Our habits help define us. The way we adapt to our environment and how we typically behave say a lot about who we are as human beings. What do we know about someone with the habit of not eating meat? What about someone with the habit of smoking cigarettes? How about the person with the habit of running five miles each day?
Do you have a habit that you would like to get rid of? I was just listening to Bob Proctor (Six Minutes To Success) this morning and he talked about habits and what we need to do to be successful.
Replace Rather than Change a Habit
Habits are extremely difficult to change because they are tied to our identities. Notice that I haven't said anything about "breaking a habit." I avoid that terminology because, as Bob said, a habit is dependent on repetition. Therefore, if we replace the activity that is the former habit–such as lighting a cigarette after dinner–with some other activity–such as taking a walk or chewing a stick of gum–the repetition ceases and the coding of the smoking habit is reduced dramatically.
The key to succeeding in replacing old habits with new ones is ensuring that the new behaviors are more appealing, effective, and beneficial than their predecessors.
In effect, replacing less effective habits with more effective ones, and creating new habits that foster greater success and well-being, is the most expedient ways to increase and expand your personal brilliance.
"It’s impressive to recognize that all the great leaders in all walks of life, and during all periods of history, have attained their leadership by the application of their abilities behind a definite major purpose. It’s no less impressive to observe that those who are classified as failures have no such purpose but they go around and around like a ship without a rudder, coming back always empty handed to their starting point.” From Napoleon Hill's The Master Key To Riches
Think about the things you do that are habits that serve you - taking a shower, getting dressed, brushing your teeth, driving your car, etc. What are some of the things you would like to change. Think about their polar opposite. As Mike Kemski says everything is a duality - black and white, pros and cons, clean and dirty - look at what is the exact opposite of the bad habit and choose to make that a good habit. Think about it and practice it daily for at least a month in order to make it a habit. If you miss a day, start over.
It takes 3 weeks to make or break a habit and in 90 days you can completely change your life.
Choose which habit you will transform to create a new and better U
To your life changing success
BANABU
Fran
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Upper Limits
Are you fighting your Upper Limit Success Saboteur?
What I have noticed with business owners is that we have a unique way of sabotaging our business growth and success.
I've seen many clients go to a workshop. Perhaps this has happened to you. You go and get clear about the next marketing strategy for your business. You can't wait to get started. You get really excited about your newfound business clarity. Once you get home, you take a few steps toward creating a project you are excited about and then... Boom! Everything stops. It falls apart. For some reason, you get irritable and procrastinate or find all these "emergencies" arise that require your attention.
There is a very good chance you are bumping up against your Upper Limit of Success.
Here's what that might look like: you keep telling yourself (and others) that you never follow through with projects. Then, even though you are really excited about a project, you'll find some way to sabotage your success. It might be kids who need your attention, an emergency with your home, or suddenly you've just got to volunteer and be more involved in your child's school.
One of my favorite books about this concept is The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. He talks about how we all have a thermostat setpoint when it comes to love, success, joy and abundance. (Actually, I added joy as I find that most of us feel guilty when we really start enjoying something whether it's a business success, a creative project bursting forth, or for some of us, even laughing out loud from a place of joy can feel dangerous.) We're so afraid of what others will think, or that we are afraid others will feel bad if we are happy & successful or that somehow we aren't worthy enough to enjoy success bigger than whatever we have experienced before.
Our inner thermostat is the comfort level we unconsciously set for ourselves. For example, let's say that for the last two years you've made $100,000 in your business. You say you are ready to grow bigger. You say you want to double your income, but you've only ever made $100,000. It's not that you can't. It's that unconsciously you have a comfort level around that lower amount. It's amazing how you will find ways to keep yourself from allowing the success in. Maybe you've experienced a big, juicy, ideal new client contacts you and you procrastinate getting back to them.
What do you do now?
The first step to changing a belief is always awareness. You have to be aware of your repetitive thought, belief or action. From that awareness you can shift most beliefs. Just shining light on it will allow you to consciously shift your energy, start new conversations, make a new choice and take a new action.
I have a lot of clients who are writing books. Funny how everyone seems to be writing a book these days! What I notice is that some of them are always still in the writing process. I think there's an Upper Level Success Saboteur at work. You have to be able to imagine yourself as a published author, see yourself at book signings, knowing without a doubt that the time you spend writing is worthwhile -that people are there in the world who need to hear your message. It's easy to get caught in the "Who am I do write this?" attitude.
YOU are the one to deliver it to them.
Here's another example from a client who said she wanted to hold a workshop and kept getting frustrated that people weren't signing up for the workshop. Turned out she hadn't booked the hotel suite or her flight yet. She wasn't committed to her own decision. No wonder things were slow. As soon as she shifted, the enrollments started coming in!
The world is waiting for you to get out of your own way!
Notice how you say you are ready for a new project, to launch a new marketing strategy that will put you in the spotlight, or raise your prices and see how you find ways to pull yourself back into your comfort zone. Be compassionate. Notice and then laugh as you recognize what's happening. Then keep taking bite-sized action steps forward. Keep noticing when things like friends, family, emergencies seem to get in the way of you taking forward action.
And then make new choices. Take new actions. And raise that Upper Limit of Success to allow more in.
Written by Laura Howard West, Center for Joyful Business, http:/www.joyfulbusiness.com ©Copyright 2009. All rights reserved.
I hope you enjoyed this article by Laura and that it challenges you to push your upper limits. Why not post a comment about your limits and how you would like to change them.
Push those boundaries!!
Fran Watson
What I have noticed with business owners is that we have a unique way of sabotaging our business growth and success.
I've seen many clients go to a workshop. Perhaps this has happened to you. You go and get clear about the next marketing strategy for your business. You can't wait to get started. You get really excited about your newfound business clarity. Once you get home, you take a few steps toward creating a project you are excited about and then... Boom! Everything stops. It falls apart. For some reason, you get irritable and procrastinate or find all these "emergencies" arise that require your attention.
There is a very good chance you are bumping up against your Upper Limit of Success.
Here's what that might look like: you keep telling yourself (and others) that you never follow through with projects. Then, even though you are really excited about a project, you'll find some way to sabotage your success. It might be kids who need your attention, an emergency with your home, or suddenly you've just got to volunteer and be more involved in your child's school.
One of my favorite books about this concept is The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. He talks about how we all have a thermostat setpoint when it comes to love, success, joy and abundance. (Actually, I added joy as I find that most of us feel guilty when we really start enjoying something whether it's a business success, a creative project bursting forth, or for some of us, even laughing out loud from a place of joy can feel dangerous.) We're so afraid of what others will think, or that we are afraid others will feel bad if we are happy & successful or that somehow we aren't worthy enough to enjoy success bigger than whatever we have experienced before.
Our inner thermostat is the comfort level we unconsciously set for ourselves. For example, let's say that for the last two years you've made $100,000 in your business. You say you are ready to grow bigger. You say you want to double your income, but you've only ever made $100,000. It's not that you can't. It's that unconsciously you have a comfort level around that lower amount. It's amazing how you will find ways to keep yourself from allowing the success in. Maybe you've experienced a big, juicy, ideal new client contacts you and you procrastinate getting back to them.
What do you do now?
The first step to changing a belief is always awareness. You have to be aware of your repetitive thought, belief or action. From that awareness you can shift most beliefs. Just shining light on it will allow you to consciously shift your energy, start new conversations, make a new choice and take a new action.
I have a lot of clients who are writing books. Funny how everyone seems to be writing a book these days! What I notice is that some of them are always still in the writing process. I think there's an Upper Level Success Saboteur at work. You have to be able to imagine yourself as a published author, see yourself at book signings, knowing without a doubt that the time you spend writing is worthwhile -that people are there in the world who need to hear your message. It's easy to get caught in the "Who am I do write this?" attitude.
YOU are the one to deliver it to them.
Here's another example from a client who said she wanted to hold a workshop and kept getting frustrated that people weren't signing up for the workshop. Turned out she hadn't booked the hotel suite or her flight yet. She wasn't committed to her own decision. No wonder things were slow. As soon as she shifted, the enrollments started coming in!
The world is waiting for you to get out of your own way!
Notice how you say you are ready for a new project, to launch a new marketing strategy that will put you in the spotlight, or raise your prices and see how you find ways to pull yourself back into your comfort zone. Be compassionate. Notice and then laugh as you recognize what's happening. Then keep taking bite-sized action steps forward. Keep noticing when things like friends, family, emergencies seem to get in the way of you taking forward action.
And then make new choices. Take new actions. And raise that Upper Limit of Success to allow more in.
Written by Laura Howard West, Center for Joyful Business, http:/www.joyfulbusiness.com ©Copyright 2009. All rights reserved.
I hope you enjoyed this article by Laura and that it challenges you to push your upper limits. Why not post a comment about your limits and how you would like to change them.
Push those boundaries!!
Fran Watson
Friday, September 30, 2011
Relationships
Do you realize relationships begin shortly after birth and are ongoing ways of life for every person on the planet?
An important part of life depends on how we develop our relationships with others. Perhaps, if we consider examples of this development, a better understanding will enable us to think more clearly before we interact with others.
Examples:
1. At birth we acknowledge a relationship with our mothers
2. Growing up, we build friendships with family members
3. In school, relationships with peers and teachers are normal
4. Most begin their dating relationships along the way
5. Searching for first employment, relationships must be formed
6. To market products, relationships are tried, tested, used
Most sports require close relationships to build a winning team. How far would the space programs have gotten without close working relationships? Would we marry without an excellent relationship with our partner?
As people mature in life, many relate an emptiness that is often difficult to understand or comprehend if a relationship has not been established with our creator. This personal relationship will fill a void that no other can fill. This is the most important relationship of all in every life, for complete fulfillment and joy.
The purpose for these examples are to enhance our willingness and desire to work on developing meaning in our lives, our families, and our businesses to become better persons and better marketers with positive relationship building goals.
A few very important traits in relationships are integrity or honesty, trust, and a willingness to open ourselves to others and be examined.
Have you ever experienced failure? Perhaps it was caused by the lack of trust or integrity in another. Can relationship building with other persons prevent failure? Would your business become more successful with many great relationships? Think on these statements and make the adjustments in your life that you feel may improve your disposition.
These basic groundwork ideas on relationships are written to jog your thinking and perhaps increase your business skills until they direct you to a point where success in business is inevitable and joy in your work becomes a normal lifestyle.
Many times along the path of life, failures occur. It is good to recognize and know the importance of developing good relationships during these trials and to be well prepared for the needed improvements.
Expect the best, prepare for the worst, and take what comes, is a great buffer for the many trials that happen in life.
Great relationships developed over a lifetime, yield great rewards!
To your Successful and Happy Relationships
Fran
P.S. Check out Six Minutes To Success - Click here
An important part of life depends on how we develop our relationships with others. Perhaps, if we consider examples of this development, a better understanding will enable us to think more clearly before we interact with others.
Examples:
1. At birth we acknowledge a relationship with our mothers
2. Growing up, we build friendships with family members
3. In school, relationships with peers and teachers are normal
4. Most begin their dating relationships along the way
5. Searching for first employment, relationships must be formed
6. To market products, relationships are tried, tested, used
Most sports require close relationships to build a winning team. How far would the space programs have gotten without close working relationships? Would we marry without an excellent relationship with our partner?
As people mature in life, many relate an emptiness that is often difficult to understand or comprehend if a relationship has not been established with our creator. This personal relationship will fill a void that no other can fill. This is the most important relationship of all in every life, for complete fulfillment and joy.
The purpose for these examples are to enhance our willingness and desire to work on developing meaning in our lives, our families, and our businesses to become better persons and better marketers with positive relationship building goals.
A few very important traits in relationships are integrity or honesty, trust, and a willingness to open ourselves to others and be examined.
Have you ever experienced failure? Perhaps it was caused by the lack of trust or integrity in another. Can relationship building with other persons prevent failure? Would your business become more successful with many great relationships? Think on these statements and make the adjustments in your life that you feel may improve your disposition.
These basic groundwork ideas on relationships are written to jog your thinking and perhaps increase your business skills until they direct you to a point where success in business is inevitable and joy in your work becomes a normal lifestyle.
Many times along the path of life, failures occur. It is good to recognize and know the importance of developing good relationships during these trials and to be well prepared for the needed improvements.
Expect the best, prepare for the worst, and take what comes, is a great buffer for the many trials that happen in life.
Great relationships developed over a lifetime, yield great rewards!
To your Successful and Happy Relationships
Fran
P.S. Check out Six Minutes To Success - Click here
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Self Love
DAYLLE'S 10 COMMANDMENTS OF SELF-LOVE
1.I shall lovingly accept myself as I am right now.
2.I shall appreciate all the beauty that makes me who I am.
3.I shall regularly give thanks for all of my blessings.
4.I shall trust in my ability to take care of myself.
5.I shall not criticize myself.
6.I shall not criticize others.
7.I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake.
8.I shall be kind to others, without sacrificing my own needs.
9.I shall take responsibility for my life.
10.I shall love myself to the best of my ability.
This is Day One for you.... begin now
Fran Watson
1.I shall lovingly accept myself as I am right now.
2.I shall appreciate all the beauty that makes me who I am.
3.I shall regularly give thanks for all of my blessings.
4.I shall trust in my ability to take care of myself.
5.I shall not criticize myself.
6.I shall not criticize others.
7.I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake.
8.I shall be kind to others, without sacrificing my own needs.
9.I shall take responsibility for my life.
10.I shall love myself to the best of my ability.
This is Day One for you.... begin now
Fran Watson
Monday, August 15, 2011
Don't Let Your "Not Now" become your "Never
by Roslyn Franken
"How soon 'not now' becomes 'never'" - Martin Luther
How true is that quote? For example, how many times do you think about going for a walk or doing a workout and you say you'll do it 'later' and then it never happens?
This kind of 'not now' attitude can be paralyzing. We have the best of desires and intentions but due to our own fears, laziness or mixed up priorities, we just never seem to get ahead and reach our goals.
Here are some questions for you to think about and 5 Steps to help you break free from your 'Not Now' attitude. If you have questions and/or would like to share your answers for feedback, send email to info@roslynfranken.com
What are some of the things you want to improve in your life that you are saying 'not now' to? For example, are you looking to...
lose weight and get in shape?
improve your overall health and well-being?
have more energy?
have more fun, laughter and passion in your life?
be happier, relax more and have greater inner peace?
slow down your busy life?
make better decisions?
If these are things you want to do, have or be, then are you going to sit back and let your 'not now' turn into your 'never'?
We all put things off at different times in our lives for different reasons. Especially when it comes to our health and happiness goals, it's so easy to procrastinate. I hear it all the time.
I'm too busy
I'm too tired
I don't have time
I'm too lazy
I don't have money
I should be able to do it on my own
Do any of these sound familiar? If yes, then let's look at the high cost of your 'not now' attitude.
Every time there is something you know you need to do and you say to yourself 'now now' or 'I'll do it later', all you are doing is setting yourself up for the inevitable stress and overwhelm that will result because the more you say this to yourself and the more you don't take care of the things you truly want to take care of in your life, the worse you will feel about yourself and the more you'll get stuck in this vicious cycle.
By putting off your health and happiness goals, the cost can be tremendous. For example, if you're too tired and lazy to eat properly, exercise and get proper rest, then your heart and blood will get tired and lazy too. When your heart and blood get tired and lazy, it is called a HEART ATTACK. If that happens, then what? It is going to cost you a lot more time, money and energy to get back on your feet to where you were at prior to the heart attack, if ever, than if you invested in yourself to start with which could have prevented the heart attack to begin with.
So here are 5 steps to break free from this unhealthy cycle.
DON'T PUT THIS OFF TILL LATER - don't think to yourself, "Oh, this sounds good, but I'll read it later"
MAKE YOUR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS YOUR TOP PRIORITIES - Yes. Your work, family and other responsibilities are important, but if you are not taking care of YOU, you will continue to live a limited life physically, mentally, emotionally and spirtitually. When you take charge of your health and happiness, it changes your whole outlook and quality of life. If you have the power to improve your health and happiness starting today, what would stop you?
MAKE THE DECISION TO EMBRACE CHANGE NOW - be honest with yourself right this moment. If you're a 'not now' person and it is clearly not serving you, then make the decision this moment to embrace change instead of continuing to resist it tooth and nail. It's time to let go of the resistance. Just letting go will help you feel better.
BE WILLING TO DO THE WORK AND MAKE THE COMMITMENT - Improving your health, your body, your outlook and your quality of life takes work. If you truly want to be healthier and happier, it takes time, effort and commitment. What you put in will determine what you get out of it and believe me that it is all so worth it if you just give yourself permission to DO IT.
TAKE ACTION - I often hear people say they're afraid of taking action because they're afraid of change, afraid of failure, or afraid they're too lazy to do the work and make the commitment. I encourage you to feel the fears, recognize the self-doubts, ignore the laziness and DO IT anyways. Sometimes it's that first step that is the hardest. I encourage you to dig deep and fine the courage to step beyond your fears, rise to the occasion, stand tall and make things happen. You can do it!
These five steps are so important for any positive change you want to make in your life. Don't let your 'not now' become your 'never'.
Roslyn Franken is a proud cancer survivor who has also overcome her own personal battles with food, weight and healthy lifestyle obstacles. She now helps people live healthier, happier lives by sharing the 9 healthy living principles found in her ground breaking book, The A List: 9 Guiding Principles for Healthy Eating and Positive Living. She offers tele-coaching and support programs and motivational speaking services. For more information and to join Roslyn's mailing list for healthy tips, recipes and special anouncements, visit RoslynFranken.com
WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR NEWSLETTER, E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You may use this article, but only if you clearly include this complete statement with it:
Roslyn Franken is a proud cancer survivor who has also overcome her own personal battles with food, weight and healthy lifestyle obstacles. She now helps people live healthier, happier lives by sharing the 9 healthy living principles found in her ground breaking book, The A List: 9 Guiding Principles for Healthy Eating and Positive Living. She offers tele-coaching and support programs and motivational speaking services. For more information and to join Roslyn's mailing list for healthy tips, recipes and special anouncements, visit RoslynFranken.com
FOCUS - Follow One Course Until Successful
To your success
Fran
"How soon 'not now' becomes 'never'" - Martin Luther
How true is that quote? For example, how many times do you think about going for a walk or doing a workout and you say you'll do it 'later' and then it never happens?
This kind of 'not now' attitude can be paralyzing. We have the best of desires and intentions but due to our own fears, laziness or mixed up priorities, we just never seem to get ahead and reach our goals.
Here are some questions for you to think about and 5 Steps to help you break free from your 'Not Now' attitude. If you have questions and/or would like to share your answers for feedback, send email to info@roslynfranken.com
What are some of the things you want to improve in your life that you are saying 'not now' to? For example, are you looking to...
lose weight and get in shape?
improve your overall health and well-being?
have more energy?
have more fun, laughter and passion in your life?
be happier, relax more and have greater inner peace?
slow down your busy life?
make better decisions?
If these are things you want to do, have or be, then are you going to sit back and let your 'not now' turn into your 'never'?
We all put things off at different times in our lives for different reasons. Especially when it comes to our health and happiness goals, it's so easy to procrastinate. I hear it all the time.
I'm too busy
I'm too tired
I don't have time
I'm too lazy
I don't have money
I should be able to do it on my own
Do any of these sound familiar? If yes, then let's look at the high cost of your 'not now' attitude.
Every time there is something you know you need to do and you say to yourself 'now now' or 'I'll do it later', all you are doing is setting yourself up for the inevitable stress and overwhelm that will result because the more you say this to yourself and the more you don't take care of the things you truly want to take care of in your life, the worse you will feel about yourself and the more you'll get stuck in this vicious cycle.
By putting off your health and happiness goals, the cost can be tremendous. For example, if you're too tired and lazy to eat properly, exercise and get proper rest, then your heart and blood will get tired and lazy too. When your heart and blood get tired and lazy, it is called a HEART ATTACK. If that happens, then what? It is going to cost you a lot more time, money and energy to get back on your feet to where you were at prior to the heart attack, if ever, than if you invested in yourself to start with which could have prevented the heart attack to begin with.
So here are 5 steps to break free from this unhealthy cycle.
DON'T PUT THIS OFF TILL LATER - don't think to yourself, "Oh, this sounds good, but I'll read it later"
MAKE YOUR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS YOUR TOP PRIORITIES - Yes. Your work, family and other responsibilities are important, but if you are not taking care of YOU, you will continue to live a limited life physically, mentally, emotionally and spirtitually. When you take charge of your health and happiness, it changes your whole outlook and quality of life. If you have the power to improve your health and happiness starting today, what would stop you?
MAKE THE DECISION TO EMBRACE CHANGE NOW - be honest with yourself right this moment. If you're a 'not now' person and it is clearly not serving you, then make the decision this moment to embrace change instead of continuing to resist it tooth and nail. It's time to let go of the resistance. Just letting go will help you feel better.
BE WILLING TO DO THE WORK AND MAKE THE COMMITMENT - Improving your health, your body, your outlook and your quality of life takes work. If you truly want to be healthier and happier, it takes time, effort and commitment. What you put in will determine what you get out of it and believe me that it is all so worth it if you just give yourself permission to DO IT.
TAKE ACTION - I often hear people say they're afraid of taking action because they're afraid of change, afraid of failure, or afraid they're too lazy to do the work and make the commitment. I encourage you to feel the fears, recognize the self-doubts, ignore the laziness and DO IT anyways. Sometimes it's that first step that is the hardest. I encourage you to dig deep and fine the courage to step beyond your fears, rise to the occasion, stand tall and make things happen. You can do it!
These five steps are so important for any positive change you want to make in your life. Don't let your 'not now' become your 'never'.
Roslyn Franken is a proud cancer survivor who has also overcome her own personal battles with food, weight and healthy lifestyle obstacles. She now helps people live healthier, happier lives by sharing the 9 healthy living principles found in her ground breaking book, The A List: 9 Guiding Principles for Healthy Eating and Positive Living. She offers tele-coaching and support programs and motivational speaking services. For more information and to join Roslyn's mailing list for healthy tips, recipes and special anouncements, visit RoslynFranken.com
WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR NEWSLETTER, E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You may use this article, but only if you clearly include this complete statement with it:
Roslyn Franken is a proud cancer survivor who has also overcome her own personal battles with food, weight and healthy lifestyle obstacles. She now helps people live healthier, happier lives by sharing the 9 healthy living principles found in her ground breaking book, The A List: 9 Guiding Principles for Healthy Eating and Positive Living. She offers tele-coaching and support programs and motivational speaking services. For more information and to join Roslyn's mailing list for healthy tips, recipes and special anouncements, visit RoslynFranken.com
FOCUS - Follow One Course Until Successful
To your success
Fran
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
What Is Holding You Back??
Learn to express rather than impress. Expressing evokes a "me too" attitude while impressing evokes a "so what" attitude. E. James Rohn
It's Not What You Are That Holds You Back...
A while back I spoke to a group in Houston and I showed them pictures of some very famous people.
They included Thomas Edison, Cher, Walt Disney, Richard Branson, Jay Leno, Whoopi Goldberg, Ted Turner and my hero Winston Churchill.
Then I asked the audience what they all had in common.
Can you guess?
There were quite a few answers from the audience and they were all wrong. It was only after I pulled out $100 and offered it as a prize that a person in the back overcame his fear of being wrong and volunteered the correct answer....
....they were all dyslexic!
I pointed out that the role that made each of them famous also required a lot of reading. Do you know how hard it is for a dyslexic person to read? But not a single one of those great people that I cited let dyslexia keep them from being all they were created to be.
That's why one of my most favorite quotes is, "It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you're not."
I use that quote by Denis Waitley virtually every time I speak to an audience. Because it really speaks to the problem I think most people have in struggling for success --- they believe they're lacking something that, if they possessed it, would make them successful. When the truth is, they already possess everything they need to be successful, they just need to learn how to use it to their advantage.
from Vic and Lisa Johnson
For My Daily Insights
What is holding you back?
What is it that you want to accomplish?
What do you need to do in order to achieve it?
Winners are those who persist and develop habits of success.
To your success
Fran Watson
It's Not What You Are That Holds You Back...
A while back I spoke to a group in Houston and I showed them pictures of some very famous people.
They included Thomas Edison, Cher, Walt Disney, Richard Branson, Jay Leno, Whoopi Goldberg, Ted Turner and my hero Winston Churchill.
Then I asked the audience what they all had in common.
Can you guess?
There were quite a few answers from the audience and they were all wrong. It was only after I pulled out $100 and offered it as a prize that a person in the back overcame his fear of being wrong and volunteered the correct answer....
....they were all dyslexic!
I pointed out that the role that made each of them famous also required a lot of reading. Do you know how hard it is for a dyslexic person to read? But not a single one of those great people that I cited let dyslexia keep them from being all they were created to be.
That's why one of my most favorite quotes is, "It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you're not."
I use that quote by Denis Waitley virtually every time I speak to an audience. Because it really speaks to the problem I think most people have in struggling for success --- they believe they're lacking something that, if they possessed it, would make them successful. When the truth is, they already possess everything they need to be successful, they just need to learn how to use it to their advantage.
from Vic and Lisa Johnson
For My Daily Insights
What is holding you back?
What is it that you want to accomplish?
What do you need to do in order to achieve it?
Winners are those who persist and develop habits of success.
To your success
Fran Watson
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Power to Empower
I found a cool blog you might be interested in seeing.
http://eugenecwilliams.com/the-power-to-empower-yourself/
"Personal empowerment will allow you to follow the dreams that are not within your means now." - Amy Twain
Fran
http://eugenecwilliams.com/the-power-to-empower-yourself/
"Personal empowerment will allow you to follow the dreams that are not within your means now." - Amy Twain
Fran
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Your Fourth Wife.....
The King's Four Wives
By Author Unknown
Once upon a time there was a rich king who had four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and adorned her with riches. He also loved his third wife and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he always feared that she would leave him. His second wife was kind and considerate and his trusted confidante and advisor in difficult times. Wife number one was devoted and loyal and although she loved him deeply, he was not so interested and tended to ignore her.
One day, the king fell ill and knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and feared being alone when he died.
He asked his fourth wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" she replied and walked away without another word.
The sad king then asked the third wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company? " "No!" she replied. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!"
He then asked the second wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" she replied. "At the very most, I can help with your funeral."
Then a voice called out to the king in his sadness: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The king looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny and undernourished. Greatly grieved, the king said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"
In truth, we all have four wives in our lives. Our fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die. Our third wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others. Our second wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave. And our first wife is our soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the ego. However, our soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.
The moral of the story: Look after your body and keep it healthy so you can live life to its fullest. Enjoy your possessions and the comfort they provide. Cherish your friends and family and the love they provide. But don't forget to nourish your soul--it is the source of all your life and your most faithful friend.
In peace and love
Fran
http://www.franwatson.ca/
By Author Unknown
Once upon a time there was a rich king who had four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and adorned her with riches. He also loved his third wife and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he always feared that she would leave him. His second wife was kind and considerate and his trusted confidante and advisor in difficult times. Wife number one was devoted and loyal and although she loved him deeply, he was not so interested and tended to ignore her.
One day, the king fell ill and knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and feared being alone when he died.
He asked his fourth wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" she replied and walked away without another word.
The sad king then asked the third wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company? " "No!" she replied. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!"
He then asked the second wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" she replied. "At the very most, I can help with your funeral."
Then a voice called out to the king in his sadness: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The king looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny and undernourished. Greatly grieved, the king said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"
In truth, we all have four wives in our lives. Our fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die. Our third wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others. Our second wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave. And our first wife is our soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the ego. However, our soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.
The moral of the story: Look after your body and keep it healthy so you can live life to its fullest. Enjoy your possessions and the comfort they provide. Cherish your friends and family and the love they provide. But don't forget to nourish your soul--it is the source of all your life and your most faithful friend.
In peace and love
Fran
http://www.franwatson.ca/
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Passion provides potential
How Wanting Something with Your Whole Being Makes it a Reality
Written by Daniel Wood on October 31, 2010 - 9 Comments
Desire is the bread and butter of success. If you don’t desire your goals enough, you won’t be able to muster the motivation to go after them, the courage to put yourself out there and you will not be able to tap into the enormous potential your desperation will let you access.
Everyone has dreams and goals in their lives. But most don’t believe that it is possible possible or don’t want them enough to care. To succeed you need to harness you dreams into an obsession, a burning desire that allows you to push yourself further then you every could without.
The Most Successful People in the World
If you look at the successful people in our community the only thing they have in common is that they wanted something and they went and got it.
We have people with lots of education, no education, rich backgrounds, poor families, different ethnic backgrounds, some who were popular growing up, others who were outsiders.
The only thing all these people have in common is their desire, they all have a burning desire to succeed.
Chris Gardner
If you have seen the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness” about Chris Gardner’s life you will have seen how a dream can change a life.
He was a black man from a small town with very little education. One day he makes the decision to change his life. He is going to be a stock broker and he stakes his entire future on that goal.
He tells his son “If you want something, go get it. Period.”
**Side note from Fran...I saw the movie. It was very powerful! The Pursuit of Happyness indeed. We make our own happiness with our choices.**
That is the same philosophy we all have to adopt if we are to succeed.
No one is going to make it easy
We have all hit hard times, it is the will to succeed that can turn it around and make your dreams reality.
When I was new in sales I had become one of the top salesmen at my company.
I worked hard every day and dreamed about getting a managerial position.
After 18 months of toil a spot opened up. I considered myself an obvious choice for the role so I applied, and get the answer, “You are too valuable a salesman, we cannot lose your sales figures. Sorry.”
This put me down and it took a long time for me to get my motivation back. At last I realized that it was up to me if I was going to get a managerial position.
I started working hard again. Harder then ever before. I started asking for more responsibility, for opportunities to lead and prove that I could handle the role.
Within 5 months the company created a new managerial position for me. The only reason I got the position was because I wanted it so badly.
Conclusion
Anything you want and anything you dream about can be yours, if you want it. All it takes is a desire so strong that it almost becomes an obsession combined with a focused effort on that goal until it becomes a reality.
Sooner or later your goal will become truth and you will have what you have dreamed about.
This was a guest post by Daniel M. Wood, posted at pickthebrain.com (great site - lots of wonderful information). If you like his articles head over to http://lookingtobusiness.com and take a look. He writes about sales technique, motivation and success.
To your success!!!
Fran
Written by Daniel Wood on October 31, 2010 - 9 Comments
Desire is the bread and butter of success. If you don’t desire your goals enough, you won’t be able to muster the motivation to go after them, the courage to put yourself out there and you will not be able to tap into the enormous potential your desperation will let you access.
Everyone has dreams and goals in their lives. But most don’t believe that it is possible possible or don’t want them enough to care. To succeed you need to harness you dreams into an obsession, a burning desire that allows you to push yourself further then you every could without.
The Most Successful People in the World
If you look at the successful people in our community the only thing they have in common is that they wanted something and they went and got it.
We have people with lots of education, no education, rich backgrounds, poor families, different ethnic backgrounds, some who were popular growing up, others who were outsiders.
The only thing all these people have in common is their desire, they all have a burning desire to succeed.
Chris Gardner
If you have seen the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness” about Chris Gardner’s life you will have seen how a dream can change a life.
He was a black man from a small town with very little education. One day he makes the decision to change his life. He is going to be a stock broker and he stakes his entire future on that goal.
He tells his son “If you want something, go get it. Period.”
**Side note from Fran...I saw the movie. It was very powerful! The Pursuit of Happyness indeed. We make our own happiness with our choices.**
That is the same philosophy we all have to adopt if we are to succeed.
No one is going to make it easy
We have all hit hard times, it is the will to succeed that can turn it around and make your dreams reality.
When I was new in sales I had become one of the top salesmen at my company.
I worked hard every day and dreamed about getting a managerial position.
After 18 months of toil a spot opened up. I considered myself an obvious choice for the role so I applied, and get the answer, “You are too valuable a salesman, we cannot lose your sales figures. Sorry.”
This put me down and it took a long time for me to get my motivation back. At last I realized that it was up to me if I was going to get a managerial position.
I started working hard again. Harder then ever before. I started asking for more responsibility, for opportunities to lead and prove that I could handle the role.
Within 5 months the company created a new managerial position for me. The only reason I got the position was because I wanted it so badly.
Conclusion
Anything you want and anything you dream about can be yours, if you want it. All it takes is a desire so strong that it almost becomes an obsession combined with a focused effort on that goal until it becomes a reality.
Sooner or later your goal will become truth and you will have what you have dreamed about.
This was a guest post by Daniel M. Wood, posted at pickthebrain.com (great site - lots of wonderful information). If you like his articles head over to http://lookingtobusiness.com and take a look. He writes about sales technique, motivation and success.
To your success!!!
Fran
Monday, October 25, 2010
Pathways to Success
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.
Helen Keller
Get your copy of the Pathways to Success ezine by clicking on the image below.
I hope you enjoy this ezine as much as I do.
All the best
Fran
Helen Keller
Get your copy of the Pathways to Success ezine by clicking on the image below.
I hope you enjoy this ezine as much as I do.
All the best
Fran
Monday, June 21, 2010
Who Are You?
Defining Moments
By Mark Susnow
Take a second and think about your life. Think about who you are, what you are doing and the people in your life. How satisfied are you? All of your past experiences, the people you have met and the choices you have made have contributed to who you are. Without any of these experiences you wouldn't be who you are today. Your beliefs about what is possible in your life are a reflection of these past experiences. Those moments from the past have also prepared you for the fast pace of the modern world. You have more choices than you realize. You also have more strengths than you realize. You can change how you think, what you do and who you hang out with.
Part of discovering who you are and what you are capable of requires you to reflect upon some of the key moments from your past. We all have experienced "defining moments." Those moments that define who you are and what you stand for. Those moments that help you create clarity about your life purpose and your life values. Sometimes those moments are in response to life's challenges. It's when you rise to the occasion. It's when you become the person you always wanted to be.
And at other times those moments are in the form of challenges. Challenges that force you to make a decision that ultimately determines your character and your destiny. To help you in this process of remembering and discovering I will share with you some defining moments that have contributed to my journey.
Expanding my sense of personal power was at the core.
What I mean by personal power is the ability to create the life you want by expanding what is possible. It's the ability to consciously determine your life path and to stay on purpose. It's making a commitment to your self and keeping it. Staying on purpose requires you to say "no" to the distractions and influences that are taking you off course. This involves discipline and though challenging for almost everyone is essential. I was a smoker while in college and in law school. I wanted to quit but wasn't ready to stop. As I was preparing for the bar exam I set up a personal challenge. I knew if I was successful with this challenge my sense of personal power would be expanded. I quit smoking the day before the bar exam. Although I failed the bar exam the first time and had to take it again, I have never smoked a cigarette since. This defining moment expanded my belief in what was possible in my life.
Developing a clear sense of boundaries was the next building block.
When I was a young lawyer and struggling, I had planned a trip to Greece and Israel with my girl friend. It was going to be my first vacation since I started practicing law. My biggest client who gave me a sense of financial security wanted me to change my plans so I could complete his project sooner. He let me know that if I didn't comply with his wishes he would get someone else. The time on my calendar was already blocked out and if I didn't take the vacation now who knew when I would have another chance. I went ahead with the trip and the client got another lawyer. This defining moment for me established at a young age the importance of personal boundaries. It also established for me the importance of living a life in balance which has always been one of my strengths.
Making the decision to take time for quiet reflection was the next step.
When I was 29 my life was falling apart. It was one of the darkest periods of my life. And because of what I was experiencing I was the most open and vulnerable. The next defining moment was when I decided to begin meditating. Regardless of how busy I was or what was going on in my life I always began my day with this practice. This practice has helped me integrate my many interests and responsibilities.
All of these moments as well as many others have contributed to who I am today. Of course there have been continual challenges since then and the ride has had its share of ups and downs. But what helps me get through these challenges are the decisions that I made in the "defining moments from the past." They have helped give me the inner strength and faith to navigate the challenging waters of life's journey.
I bet if you reflect back upon your life, you will discover your own defining moments. After you have revisited them, build upon them to help you discover your destiny.
Imagine making a decision today or tomorrow that can potentially define the direction your life takes in the future. What will this decision be? When will you make it? Let me know.
Thanks for being in the Letters on Life network. There are now over 1300 subscribers all over the world that are reading Letters on Life. Perhaps many more as most of you are forwarding it to friends in your circle. Thanks for your continuing support and referrals.
Journey On
Mark
About the author:
Mark Susnow has a unique background. Formerly a successful trial attorney for 30 years, as well as musician, he integrates what it takes to be truly prosperous in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation practice. As a personal coach, leadership consultant and inspirational speaker, Mark provides inspiration and motivation to many business leaders and professionals. He knows what it means to have a big vision and has demonstrated the courage and energy it takes to accomplish it. Consider contacting Mark and be sure to visit his website http://www.inspirepossibility.com
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What is Your Defining Moment?
Fran
By Mark Susnow
Take a second and think about your life. Think about who you are, what you are doing and the people in your life. How satisfied are you? All of your past experiences, the people you have met and the choices you have made have contributed to who you are. Without any of these experiences you wouldn't be who you are today. Your beliefs about what is possible in your life are a reflection of these past experiences. Those moments from the past have also prepared you for the fast pace of the modern world. You have more choices than you realize. You also have more strengths than you realize. You can change how you think, what you do and who you hang out with.
Part of discovering who you are and what you are capable of requires you to reflect upon some of the key moments from your past. We all have experienced "defining moments." Those moments that define who you are and what you stand for. Those moments that help you create clarity about your life purpose and your life values. Sometimes those moments are in response to life's challenges. It's when you rise to the occasion. It's when you become the person you always wanted to be.
And at other times those moments are in the form of challenges. Challenges that force you to make a decision that ultimately determines your character and your destiny. To help you in this process of remembering and discovering I will share with you some defining moments that have contributed to my journey.
Expanding my sense of personal power was at the core.
What I mean by personal power is the ability to create the life you want by expanding what is possible. It's the ability to consciously determine your life path and to stay on purpose. It's making a commitment to your self and keeping it. Staying on purpose requires you to say "no" to the distractions and influences that are taking you off course. This involves discipline and though challenging for almost everyone is essential. I was a smoker while in college and in law school. I wanted to quit but wasn't ready to stop. As I was preparing for the bar exam I set up a personal challenge. I knew if I was successful with this challenge my sense of personal power would be expanded. I quit smoking the day before the bar exam. Although I failed the bar exam the first time and had to take it again, I have never smoked a cigarette since. This defining moment expanded my belief in what was possible in my life.
Developing a clear sense of boundaries was the next building block.
When I was a young lawyer and struggling, I had planned a trip to Greece and Israel with my girl friend. It was going to be my first vacation since I started practicing law. My biggest client who gave me a sense of financial security wanted me to change my plans so I could complete his project sooner. He let me know that if I didn't comply with his wishes he would get someone else. The time on my calendar was already blocked out and if I didn't take the vacation now who knew when I would have another chance. I went ahead with the trip and the client got another lawyer. This defining moment for me established at a young age the importance of personal boundaries. It also established for me the importance of living a life in balance which has always been one of my strengths.
Making the decision to take time for quiet reflection was the next step.
When I was 29 my life was falling apart. It was one of the darkest periods of my life. And because of what I was experiencing I was the most open and vulnerable. The next defining moment was when I decided to begin meditating. Regardless of how busy I was or what was going on in my life I always began my day with this practice. This practice has helped me integrate my many interests and responsibilities.
All of these moments as well as many others have contributed to who I am today. Of course there have been continual challenges since then and the ride has had its share of ups and downs. But what helps me get through these challenges are the decisions that I made in the "defining moments from the past." They have helped give me the inner strength and faith to navigate the challenging waters of life's journey.
I bet if you reflect back upon your life, you will discover your own defining moments. After you have revisited them, build upon them to help you discover your destiny.
Imagine making a decision today or tomorrow that can potentially define the direction your life takes in the future. What will this decision be? When will you make it? Let me know.
Thanks for being in the Letters on Life network. There are now over 1300 subscribers all over the world that are reading Letters on Life. Perhaps many more as most of you are forwarding it to friends in your circle. Thanks for your continuing support and referrals.
Journey On
Mark
About the author:
Mark Susnow has a unique background. Formerly a successful trial attorney for 30 years, as well as musician, he integrates what it takes to be truly prosperous in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation practice. As a personal coach, leadership consultant and inspirational speaker, Mark provides inspiration and motivation to many business leaders and professionals. He knows what it means to have a big vision and has demonstrated the courage and energy it takes to accomplish it. Consider contacting Mark and be sure to visit his website http://www.inspirepossibility.com
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What is Your Defining Moment?
Fran
Friday, April 16, 2010
Dream Boogie - SARK
This is huge! SARK just announced you can download a free recording of her Dream Boogie class!
Big news! Best-selling author and artist SARK (aka Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) has just announced that she is inviting anyone to download the recording of the first class of Dream Boogie with SARK for free, just so you can experience "Dream Boogie" first-hand and see what it's all about, without any cost or obligation. Registration is open through Wednesday April 21, but if you sign up by SARK's birthday (Monday April 19), you get a bonus jump-start workbook called "SARK's Purple Dream Crayon: A Playbook for Naming Your Dream"
SARK has been teaching workshops all around the world for over 25 years, but Dream Boogie is actually her very first live teleclass series. It’s a dream productivity program that is packed with inspiration and innovation to help you move from dreaming to DOing.
In addition to the free call on Wednesday, you can enjoy some fun, free "Dream Boogie" samples, including interview audio snippets, plus colorful SARK videos, workbook downloads, and other funky little goodies for your dream.
Fran
P.S. Visit Planet SARK for more info
Monday, March 22, 2010
THERE'S SOMETHING FISHY GOING ON HERE!
THERE'S SOMETHING FISHY GOING ON HERE! from Rebecca Fine - SOGR
The situation looked grim for Johnny Yokoyama.
The seafood market where he had once been an employee but was now
the owner was more than $300,000 in debt and sinking deeper fast.
In fact, employee morale was at an all-time low, and the business
was almost as dead as the fish no one was buying.
Now fast-forward to today and imagine yourself in Seattle's
lively landmark, the Pike Place Market, overlooking Puget Sound
and the snow-capped Olympic Mountains beyond. As you walk closer
to the crowd gathered near the open-air center of this sprawling
bazaar you can't help wondering what all that laughter and
shrieking are about ...
... until you see a hefty two-foot long salmon
flying over the gathering and into the waiting
arms of the young man behind the counter --
and the crowd goes wild!
Someone asks another rubber-aproned fellow for two pounds of
halibut. "TWO POUNDS OF HALIBUT!" the order-taker calls out. "TWO
POUNDS OF HALIBUT!" comes the reply, in unison, from EVERYONE
else on the fish market crew.
Tourists are snapping photos like crazy, even handing their
giggling toddlers up to pose with fish bigger than they are. And
every so often, someone leans in for a closer look at that giant
monkfish -- the one there on the lower shelf, that
prehistoric-looking fish with a mouth as big as a dinner plate.
But that someone doesn't linger long because
one little tug on the string that's tied to
the fish's tail and hidden under the ice
makes that fish MOVE-- and makes the
curiosity-seeker straighten up fast!
This is certainly like no fish market you've ever seen before.
Then you notice that in addition to all the silliness and
good-natured clowning, something else is happening here.
People aren't just laughing, they're buying fish.
A LOT of fish!
Now, in his life-changing 1910 rediscovered classic, The Science
of Getting Rich, Wallace Wattles has laid out for us the basic
principles by which the Pike Place Fish Market crew has turned
what appeared to be failure into a stunning "World Famous"
success.
No, they didn't have the book to guide them; they just happened
onto some of these principles in an instinctive way. Their backs
were against the wall and they clearly saw that SOMETHING had to
change.
Amazingly, they didn't focus on the obvious question: How can we
sell more fish?
Instead, they imagined a thriving market filled with happy
customers and happy employees. And then they realized that if
visitors were to enjoy the experience, first THEY had to change
their own thinking and their own behavior.
Sound familiar?
Oh, you see those two dozen executive-looking types over there,
giggling like little kids? The ones wearing the matching jackets
emblazoned with their famous corporate logo? They're here as part
of a seminar on how to revitalize their customer service teams.
Turns out the fish flingers have stumbled upon some "secrets"
that big corporations spend millions looking for. In fact, there
are now several seminars, a couple of training videos, and even a
best-selling book endorsed by some of the world's top business
speakers and authors -- all aimed at spreading this "fish
philosophy" to other businesses.
So what exactly happened to turn a dark, dingy,
dying seafood store into the star attraction of
a famous city's famous landmark?
Well, listen up to the four main principles as outlined by
Charthouse Learning Corporation's CEO John Christensen. Not too
long ago Mr. Christensen wandered into the Pike Place Fish Market
craziness just as I did (although I don't know if they hooked him
with that monkfish gag the way they "caught" me!). ;-D
Mr. Christensen is the man who immediately realized that there
was something special going on here that needed to be "world
famous." Here's what it boils down to:
1. "Play: We put more energy into what we enjoy, and finding ways
to 'play' can lead to greater productivity and creativity. Play
is NOT about acting irresponsibly. In the livable workplace, it
is about finding ways to have more fun accomplishing serious
goals."
Now Mr. Wattles doesn't say anything about "play" at all -- and
it's a little difficult to imagine it being taken seriously back
at the turn of the last century when the "efficiency movement"
was the darling of the industrial world. But today we can easily
see that a light-hearted sense of "play" can be a major component
of achieving consistent "efficient action."
(Wally DOES advise "full enjoyment." Close enough!) ;-D
2. "Be There: The glue in our humanity is in being fully present
for one another. Being there also is a great way to practice
wholeheartedness and fight burnout, for it is those halfhearted
tasks you perform while juggling other things that wear you out."
"Put your whole mind into present action," Mr. Wattles says. And
when one of the fish market guys stops goofing and turns to help
a customer, that customer becomes the only other person in the
place.
Don't you wish EVERYONE you deal with in the course of a normal
day had that kind of focus?
(Don't they wish YOU did, too?)
3. "Choose Your Attitude: When you look for the worst you will
find it everywhere. When you look for the best you will find
opportunities you never imagined possible. You have the power to
choose your attitude. If you find yourself with an attitude you
don't want, you can choose another."
Mr. Wattles says, "You must learn to see the underlying truth in
all things," and we know that our prevailing attitudes make this
either possible or impossible. If your attitude is negative,
you're expressing faith that what you do NOT want is on its way
to you. But as Mr. Christensen notes, if the attitude you have at
the moment isn't serving you -- or anyone else -- you can always
choose again!
4. "Make Their Day: When you 'make someone's day' (or even
moment) through a small kindness or unforgettable engagement, you
can turn even routine encounters into special memories. Few
things are as rewarding and infectious as lifting another
person's spirits, and the act of serving others quickly returns a
feeling of satisfaction."
What a wonderful way to embody Mr. Wattles' advice always to
"give more in use value than you take in cash value!"
The fish guys add value to every transaction in many ways: By
letting the customer know that s/he is important (whether s/he
buys anything or not!), by providing a light moment of
entertainment (simply by being themselves and not taking
themselves too seriously), and in countless other ways, large and
small.
See, making money selling fish isn't just about selling fish.
It's the same with ANY business. And if you think you aren't "in
business" just because you work for someone else or some big
company, look at it this way: You ARE in business -- a one-person
business with you as CEO, employee, and even as the product or
service!
(Maybe your "business" is taking care of
your home and family. Same principles
STILL apply!)
You can learn a lot from a bunch of fishy guys in Seattle, and in
a moment I'll send you off to do just that. But first, let's wrap
this up with a brief excerpt from the book, Fish!, a modern
"business parable" that teaches the valuable lessons at the heart
of the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market's stunning turnaround:
"Let me tell you about my grandmother. She always brought love
and a smile to her work. All of us grandkids wanted to help in
the kitchen because Grandma was so much fun. In the process a
great deal of kitchen wisdom was dispensed. Us kids were given
something truly precious, a caring adult.
"I realize now that my grandmother
didn't love dishwashing. She BROUGHT
love to dishwashing, and her spirit
was infectious.
"Likewise, my buddies and I realized that each day when we come
to the fish market we bring an attitude. We can bring a moody
attitude and have a depressing day. We can bring a grouchy
attitude and irritate our coworkers and customers. Or we can
bring a sunny, playful, cheerful attitude and have a great day.
We can choose the kind of day we will have.
"We spent a lot of time talking about this choice, and we
realized that as long as we are going to be at work, we might as
well have the best day we can have. Make sense to you?"
Makes sense to me! And if you agree, my friend, take a closer
look. See, what the Pike Place Fish gang intuitively discovered
is that ...
... if their situation was to change,
first THEY had to change.
And so they did. They decided to turn their dreary and
unprofitable work into fun. Fun for themselves and for everyone
who steps into their world, whether they buy fish or not.
Ask Johnny Yokoyama what he's most proud of these days and he'll
tell you: "My employees and I made Pike Place Fish 'World
Famous!'"
Then ask him what "World Famous" means to him, and you get the
real scoop: "It means that we never stop creating possibilities
-- every day gives us the opportunity to grow, to learn something
new, to get better than we were yesterday. We are gonna make your
day!"
Why not make it YOUR objective to become "World Famous?" To find
ways to bring the same "sunny, playful, cheerful attitude" to
YOUR job or business or to ANY- and EVERYTHING you do -- and to
begin to revel in the delight of seeing the very same kind of
RESULTS, including the ones you can take to the bank?
If the fish guys can do it, so can YOU!
Here's where you can meet the Pike Place guys and gals, see and
hear the fun, check out their philosophy, and pick up some great
seafood recipes, too!
--> http://www.pikeplacefish.com
Have FUN, my friend -- and remember to watch out for those
low-flying fish!
Certain Way Productions Inc., 5190 Neil Road, Suite 430,
Reno, NV 89502, USA. Phone: 775-333-5949 Fax: 314-480-9229
CUSTOMER SERVICE: at-your-service@scienceofgettingrich.net
Get more information about SOGR - Science of Getting Rich Click Here for a Free Book
Enjoy
Fran Watson
The situation looked grim for Johnny Yokoyama.
The seafood market where he had once been an employee but was now
the owner was more than $300,000 in debt and sinking deeper fast.
In fact, employee morale was at an all-time low, and the business
was almost as dead as the fish no one was buying.
Now fast-forward to today and imagine yourself in Seattle's
lively landmark, the Pike Place Market, overlooking Puget Sound
and the snow-capped Olympic Mountains beyond. As you walk closer
to the crowd gathered near the open-air center of this sprawling
bazaar you can't help wondering what all that laughter and
shrieking are about ...
... until you see a hefty two-foot long salmon
flying over the gathering and into the waiting
arms of the young man behind the counter --
and the crowd goes wild!
Someone asks another rubber-aproned fellow for two pounds of
halibut. "TWO POUNDS OF HALIBUT!" the order-taker calls out. "TWO
POUNDS OF HALIBUT!" comes the reply, in unison, from EVERYONE
else on the fish market crew.
Tourists are snapping photos like crazy, even handing their
giggling toddlers up to pose with fish bigger than they are. And
every so often, someone leans in for a closer look at that giant
monkfish -- the one there on the lower shelf, that
prehistoric-looking fish with a mouth as big as a dinner plate.
But that someone doesn't linger long because
one little tug on the string that's tied to
the fish's tail and hidden under the ice
makes that fish MOVE-- and makes the
curiosity-seeker straighten up fast!
This is certainly like no fish market you've ever seen before.
Then you notice that in addition to all the silliness and
good-natured clowning, something else is happening here.
People aren't just laughing, they're buying fish.
A LOT of fish!
Now, in his life-changing 1910 rediscovered classic, The Science
of Getting Rich, Wallace Wattles has laid out for us the basic
principles by which the Pike Place Fish Market crew has turned
what appeared to be failure into a stunning "World Famous"
success.
No, they didn't have the book to guide them; they just happened
onto some of these principles in an instinctive way. Their backs
were against the wall and they clearly saw that SOMETHING had to
change.
Amazingly, they didn't focus on the obvious question: How can we
sell more fish?
Instead, they imagined a thriving market filled with happy
customers and happy employees. And then they realized that if
visitors were to enjoy the experience, first THEY had to change
their own thinking and their own behavior.
Sound familiar?
Oh, you see those two dozen executive-looking types over there,
giggling like little kids? The ones wearing the matching jackets
emblazoned with their famous corporate logo? They're here as part
of a seminar on how to revitalize their customer service teams.
Turns out the fish flingers have stumbled upon some "secrets"
that big corporations spend millions looking for. In fact, there
are now several seminars, a couple of training videos, and even a
best-selling book endorsed by some of the world's top business
speakers and authors -- all aimed at spreading this "fish
philosophy" to other businesses.
So what exactly happened to turn a dark, dingy,
dying seafood store into the star attraction of
a famous city's famous landmark?
Well, listen up to the four main principles as outlined by
Charthouse Learning Corporation's CEO John Christensen. Not too
long ago Mr. Christensen wandered into the Pike Place Fish Market
craziness just as I did (although I don't know if they hooked him
with that monkfish gag the way they "caught" me!). ;-D
Mr. Christensen is the man who immediately realized that there
was something special going on here that needed to be "world
famous." Here's what it boils down to:
1. "Play: We put more energy into what we enjoy, and finding ways
to 'play' can lead to greater productivity and creativity. Play
is NOT about acting irresponsibly. In the livable workplace, it
is about finding ways to have more fun accomplishing serious
goals."
Now Mr. Wattles doesn't say anything about "play" at all -- and
it's a little difficult to imagine it being taken seriously back
at the turn of the last century when the "efficiency movement"
was the darling of the industrial world. But today we can easily
see that a light-hearted sense of "play" can be a major component
of achieving consistent "efficient action."
(Wally DOES advise "full enjoyment." Close enough!) ;-D
2. "Be There: The glue in our humanity is in being fully present
for one another. Being there also is a great way to practice
wholeheartedness and fight burnout, for it is those halfhearted
tasks you perform while juggling other things that wear you out."
"Put your whole mind into present action," Mr. Wattles says. And
when one of the fish market guys stops goofing and turns to help
a customer, that customer becomes the only other person in the
place.
Don't you wish EVERYONE you deal with in the course of a normal
day had that kind of focus?
(Don't they wish YOU did, too?)
3. "Choose Your Attitude: When you look for the worst you will
find it everywhere. When you look for the best you will find
opportunities you never imagined possible. You have the power to
choose your attitude. If you find yourself with an attitude you
don't want, you can choose another."
Mr. Wattles says, "You must learn to see the underlying truth in
all things," and we know that our prevailing attitudes make this
either possible or impossible. If your attitude is negative,
you're expressing faith that what you do NOT want is on its way
to you. But as Mr. Christensen notes, if the attitude you have at
the moment isn't serving you -- or anyone else -- you can always
choose again!
4. "Make Their Day: When you 'make someone's day' (or even
moment) through a small kindness or unforgettable engagement, you
can turn even routine encounters into special memories. Few
things are as rewarding and infectious as lifting another
person's spirits, and the act of serving others quickly returns a
feeling of satisfaction."
What a wonderful way to embody Mr. Wattles' advice always to
"give more in use value than you take in cash value!"
The fish guys add value to every transaction in many ways: By
letting the customer know that s/he is important (whether s/he
buys anything or not!), by providing a light moment of
entertainment (simply by being themselves and not taking
themselves too seriously), and in countless other ways, large and
small.
See, making money selling fish isn't just about selling fish.
It's the same with ANY business. And if you think you aren't "in
business" just because you work for someone else or some big
company, look at it this way: You ARE in business -- a one-person
business with you as CEO, employee, and even as the product or
service!
(Maybe your "business" is taking care of
your home and family. Same principles
STILL apply!)
You can learn a lot from a bunch of fishy guys in Seattle, and in
a moment I'll send you off to do just that. But first, let's wrap
this up with a brief excerpt from the book, Fish!, a modern
"business parable" that teaches the valuable lessons at the heart
of the World Famous Pike Place Fish Market's stunning turnaround:
"Let me tell you about my grandmother. She always brought love
and a smile to her work. All of us grandkids wanted to help in
the kitchen because Grandma was so much fun. In the process a
great deal of kitchen wisdom was dispensed. Us kids were given
something truly precious, a caring adult.
"I realize now that my grandmother
didn't love dishwashing. She BROUGHT
love to dishwashing, and her spirit
was infectious.
"Likewise, my buddies and I realized that each day when we come
to the fish market we bring an attitude. We can bring a moody
attitude and have a depressing day. We can bring a grouchy
attitude and irritate our coworkers and customers. Or we can
bring a sunny, playful, cheerful attitude and have a great day.
We can choose the kind of day we will have.
"We spent a lot of time talking about this choice, and we
realized that as long as we are going to be at work, we might as
well have the best day we can have. Make sense to you?"
Makes sense to me! And if you agree, my friend, take a closer
look. See, what the Pike Place Fish gang intuitively discovered
is that ...
... if their situation was to change,
first THEY had to change.
And so they did. They decided to turn their dreary and
unprofitable work into fun. Fun for themselves and for everyone
who steps into their world, whether they buy fish or not.
Ask Johnny Yokoyama what he's most proud of these days and he'll
tell you: "My employees and I made Pike Place Fish 'World
Famous!'"
Then ask him what "World Famous" means to him, and you get the
real scoop: "It means that we never stop creating possibilities
-- every day gives us the opportunity to grow, to learn something
new, to get better than we were yesterday. We are gonna make your
day!"
Why not make it YOUR objective to become "World Famous?" To find
ways to bring the same "sunny, playful, cheerful attitude" to
YOUR job or business or to ANY- and EVERYTHING you do -- and to
begin to revel in the delight of seeing the very same kind of
RESULTS, including the ones you can take to the bank?
If the fish guys can do it, so can YOU!
Here's where you can meet the Pike Place guys and gals, see and
hear the fun, check out their philosophy, and pick up some great
seafood recipes, too!
--> http://www.pikeplacefish.com
Have FUN, my friend -- and remember to watch out for those
low-flying fish!
Certain Way Productions Inc., 5190 Neil Road, Suite 430,
Reno, NV 89502, USA. Phone: 775-333-5949 Fax: 314-480-9229
CUSTOMER SERVICE: at-your-service@scienceofgettingrich.net
Get more information about SOGR - Science of Getting Rich Click Here for a Free Book
Enjoy
Fran Watson
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Who is Responsible for Your Life???
Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life - STARTING TODAY!
by Jack Canfield
This isn’t a trick question.
Certainly you know the answer—the person who has been responsible for the life you live right now: YOU.
Everything about you is a result of your doing or not doing... Your income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level. Attitudes and behaviors.
I've often said that you are either creating or allowing everything that is happening in your life.
I think everyone knows this in their hearts, but often times people convince themselves into thinking that external factors are the source of their failure, disappointment, and unhappiness.
External factors do not determine how you live. YOU are in complete control of the quality of your life, by either creating or allowing the circumstances you experience.
When I hear people complain about the state of their life (be it their problems with personal finances, weight, their jobs, or general dissatisfaction), I like to help them see things differently.
If they feel “stuck” and unable to move forward for whatever reason, I ask them to scrutinize both what is working well and what isn’t working well in their life and see how they’ve arrived at where they currently are.
For example, if a woman tells me she’s unhappy with her weight—she travels frequently, and has no to time to exercise or seek healthy foods—I point out that her weight is not a result of her travels and schedule. It’s an outcome of what she chooses to eat and how she chooses to move, regardless of her daily agenda. Why not make a conscious effort to pre-plan healthy meals and snacks, even if it’s on the go, and sneak in 10 minutes here and 10 minutes there to be physically active (hey, I know some frequent flyers that make it a habit of running through airports!).
If you’re frustrated with any area in your life, then it’s time to take a little inventory.
Certainly there are wonderful things happening, whether it’s your job, your romantic relationship, your children, your friends, or your income level. Your accomplishments are just as important as your missteps.
First, congratulate yourself on your successes; and then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?
Watch out! If you find yourself beginning to complain about everything but the choices you’ve made, then you need to take a step back. See if you can stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness.
When you realize that you—and only you—create your experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and forge new experiences whenever you want.
How empowering is that!
You must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times.
All too often we choose to claim the successes and blame the failures on others or other circumstances. When you stop blaming, however, you can take that energy and redirect it to focus on shaping a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up your energy. Imagine roping all the energy into a positive effort.
Some ideas to make this happen:
1. Believe, Believe, Believe! Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to accept the fact that you create all your experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that—little hills to hop over.
2. Take no less than 100% responsibility . Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.
3. Stop complaining . Look at what you are complaining about. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my sister. I’ll never find a soulmate in life. Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.
4. Make an immediate change. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain?
You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.
5. Pay attention. Looking to others for help and guidance is helpful, but don’t forget to stay tuned in to yourself—your behavior, attitude, and life experiences. Identify what’s working and what isn’t. If you need to, write it all down. Then…
6. Face the truth and take action for the long term . You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now’s the time to plan additional steps to keep moving you forward, faster.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
If you need just one thing to do different today, than you did yesterday, make it this:
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it's much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!
© 2010 Jack Canfield
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by Jack Canfield
This isn’t a trick question.
Certainly you know the answer—the person who has been responsible for the life you live right now: YOU.
Everything about you is a result of your doing or not doing... Your income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level. Attitudes and behaviors.
I've often said that you are either creating or allowing everything that is happening in your life.
I think everyone knows this in their hearts, but often times people convince themselves into thinking that external factors are the source of their failure, disappointment, and unhappiness.
External factors do not determine how you live. YOU are in complete control of the quality of your life, by either creating or allowing the circumstances you experience.
When I hear people complain about the state of their life (be it their problems with personal finances, weight, their jobs, or general dissatisfaction), I like to help them see things differently.
If they feel “stuck” and unable to move forward for whatever reason, I ask them to scrutinize both what is working well and what isn’t working well in their life and see how they’ve arrived at where they currently are.
For example, if a woman tells me she’s unhappy with her weight—she travels frequently, and has no to time to exercise or seek healthy foods—I point out that her weight is not a result of her travels and schedule. It’s an outcome of what she chooses to eat and how she chooses to move, regardless of her daily agenda. Why not make a conscious effort to pre-plan healthy meals and snacks, even if it’s on the go, and sneak in 10 minutes here and 10 minutes there to be physically active (hey, I know some frequent flyers that make it a habit of running through airports!).
If you’re frustrated with any area in your life, then it’s time to take a little inventory.
Certainly there are wonderful things happening, whether it’s your job, your romantic relationship, your children, your friends, or your income level. Your accomplishments are just as important as your missteps.
First, congratulate yourself on your successes; and then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?
Watch out! If you find yourself beginning to complain about everything but the choices you’ve made, then you need to take a step back. See if you can stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness.
When you realize that you—and only you—create your experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and forge new experiences whenever you want.
How empowering is that!
You must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times.
All too often we choose to claim the successes and blame the failures on others or other circumstances. When you stop blaming, however, you can take that energy and redirect it to focus on shaping a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up your energy. Imagine roping all the energy into a positive effort.
Some ideas to make this happen:
1. Believe, Believe, Believe! Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to accept the fact that you create all your experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that—little hills to hop over.
2. Take no less than 100% responsibility . Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.
3. Stop complaining . Look at what you are complaining about. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my sister. I’ll never find a soulmate in life. Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.
4. Make an immediate change. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain?
You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.
5. Pay attention. Looking to others for help and guidance is helpful, but don’t forget to stay tuned in to yourself—your behavior, attitude, and life experiences. Identify what’s working and what isn’t. If you need to, write it all down. Then…
6. Face the truth and take action for the long term . You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now’s the time to plan additional steps to keep moving you forward, faster.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
If you need just one thing to do different today, than you did yesterday, make it this:
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it's much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!
© 2010 Jack Canfield
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
Awesome Anytime Adventures
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Looking forward to seeing you on the journey
Fran
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What vibrant activies have you always wanted to try???? Try them now! Come along with us. See where the road leads. Click here to view more details
Looking forward to seeing you on the journey
Fran
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Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Tellman's twisted legs
Fran,
WOW!
So far the response to my
Instant Money Button CD
has been fantastic!
People are snatching these
up faster than we can ship
'em out!
But that's not why I'm writing
you right now-
I'm writing you because of my legs...
(weird right?)
See, as a kid I had what the doctors
call "Femoral Antiversion" which in
normal english means twisted legs...
My feet were turned at such a weird
angle that I'd stumble all the time,
tripping over myself while other kids
pointed and laughed...
I hated it.
And by the time I got to high school,
I was starting to make friends with
runners - I REALLY wanted to be able
to join the cross country team...
Some of the older kids had taken
me under their wing, and I wanted to
step up and show them I could really
compete...
The only problem was my legs...
So I started running - or I should
say, I started falling on my face-
The coach laughed at me...
My doctor told me I should get surgery...
But my friends cheered me on.
Slowly but surely, I stopped falling-
I stopped stumbling...
And before I knew it, I had strengthened
the muscles in my legs so much that they
literally "pulled" my bones straight.
The doctor was shocked...
The Coach started taking me seriously...
In fact, I became the star runner at my
little Rural New Hampshire school...
Most of my records still stand -
If you walk down the halls near
the gym you'll see the proof...
But I'm not really writing to you
today about my legs either...
I wanted to tell you the story
of how I overcame my biggest
obstacle and achieved what I
wanted, in spite of what the
others said...
What are your "twisted legs?"
What is keeping you back,
or causing you to fall on your
face over and over?
It could be your job, it could be
your boss, or friends, or it could
even be yourself...
Imagine what it would be like to
obliterate your obstacles - to overcome
your stumbling blocks and start
running full steam toward the
future you deserve...
Now imagine this:
You have an internet business that you
can run from anywhere on the planet...
You have the ability to make more
with the push of a button than you
did all last month...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
You have the freedom to spend your
time how you see fit...
What would you do?
What would you be ABLE to do with
a truly push-button income stream?
Think about that - and imagine
the possibilities for your future,
your family - and your happiness...
I don't know if you managed to get
a copy of your *free* instant money
button CD yet - but I designed it
with all of this in mind...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
If you filled out the shipping
information, then you'll be getting
it in just a couple days,
If not, you better hurry -
I've got one reserved for you,
but I don't know how long I can
hold onto it...
There are a lot of people on the
waiting list who would love to snap
it up...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
Shabambo!
--Tellman
P.S. - Go to the site below to
finish filling out your shipping
information and get your *free* CD.
http://www.ListBuilding.com/button
******************
You can overcome anything just like Tellman if you truly believe
Fran
WOW!
So far the response to my
Instant Money Button CD
has been fantastic!
People are snatching these
up faster than we can ship
'em out!
But that's not why I'm writing
you right now-
I'm writing you because of my legs...
(weird right?)
See, as a kid I had what the doctors
call "Femoral Antiversion" which in
normal english means twisted legs...
My feet were turned at such a weird
angle that I'd stumble all the time,
tripping over myself while other kids
pointed and laughed...
I hated it.
And by the time I got to high school,
I was starting to make friends with
runners - I REALLY wanted to be able
to join the cross country team...
Some of the older kids had taken
me under their wing, and I wanted to
step up and show them I could really
compete...
The only problem was my legs...
So I started running - or I should
say, I started falling on my face-
The coach laughed at me...
My doctor told me I should get surgery...
But my friends cheered me on.
Slowly but surely, I stopped falling-
I stopped stumbling...
And before I knew it, I had strengthened
the muscles in my legs so much that they
literally "pulled" my bones straight.
The doctor was shocked...
The Coach started taking me seriously...
In fact, I became the star runner at my
little Rural New Hampshire school...
Most of my records still stand -
If you walk down the halls near
the gym you'll see the proof...
But I'm not really writing to you
today about my legs either...
I wanted to tell you the story
of how I overcame my biggest
obstacle and achieved what I
wanted, in spite of what the
others said...
What are your "twisted legs?"
What is keeping you back,
or causing you to fall on your
face over and over?
It could be your job, it could be
your boss, or friends, or it could
even be yourself...
Imagine what it would be like to
obliterate your obstacles - to overcome
your stumbling blocks and start
running full steam toward the
future you deserve...
Now imagine this:
You have an internet business that you
can run from anywhere on the planet...
You have the ability to make more
with the push of a button than you
did all last month...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
You have the freedom to spend your
time how you see fit...
What would you do?
What would you be ABLE to do with
a truly push-button income stream?
Think about that - and imagine
the possibilities for your future,
your family - and your happiness...
I don't know if you managed to get
a copy of your *free* instant money
button CD yet - but I designed it
with all of this in mind...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
If you filled out the shipping
information, then you'll be getting
it in just a couple days,
If not, you better hurry -
I've got one reserved for you,
but I don't know how long I can
hold onto it...
There are a lot of people on the
waiting list who would love to snap
it up...
>>Click here to get your *free* CD.
Shabambo!
--Tellman
P.S. - Go to the site below to
finish filling out your shipping
information and get your *free* CD.
http://www.ListBuilding.com/button
******************
You can overcome anything just like Tellman if you truly believe
Fran
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